Going crazy for Silly Bandz?

Raise your hand if you have a car around your wrist, or a heart, or a dog or, say, the state of Texas? Then your probably are wearing Silly Bandz. I just found out about these crazy bracelets but EVERYONE is suddenly wearing them. And I mean everyone - even boys.

If you don't know what Silly Bandz are, they are colorful rubber bracelets that are in interesting shapes. So instead of the typical circle-shape, these bracelets are in all sorts of shapes - from stars to cars to alphabet letters.

Want to see what I mean? Click the "Photos" link below.

Please note that if you click this link, you'll leave the Pink Locker Society site and going to a site that sells stuff.

Photos

I'm sooooooo very curious about this trend that I'm running an online survey.

Take the Silly Bandz Survey

I'm very interested to see what you guys say!

Think pink!

Jemma

For Alice in France!

Oooh-la-la - I love France! Our friend Alice is lucky enough to live there. One problem though, she's got "the new school blues."

Dear PLS,
help i got the new school blues. even though I've been there a while there are still some things i miss so much and since i moved to france (though it is an international and the teachers speak english) it has an even more impact and now I'am back at the bottom of the popularity chain. I'am rock bottom on the popularity chain the freak its not my fault I'm different now a days all i do is cry please help T_T
Alice, 11

Moving is hard, no doubt about it. I get what Alice is saying about starting all over, friendwise. It can be fun to start fresh, but it's also nice when people know who you are and your friends are already set.

I say Alice should read the article below about moving and also ask for help from teachers or other grownups. Ask a school counselor: Who's the nicest, friendliest student you know? Then ask if the counselor will introduce you. Also think about joining a sport or club. What are you good at? Also keep in touch with friends back home, when you can. I bet - like me - they would love to hear more about what it's like to live in France.

What do you say mes amis? (That's French for "my friends.) Do you have advice about moving and fitting in for Alice?

What Kids Who Are Moving Should Do

Think pink!
Jemma

Haley's gone veggie (take 2)

We had some "technical issues" with this post, but it's back!

I know it's a little unexpected but I love vegetables. (Those are artichokes in the photo there. Yum!)

I've even thought I could be a vegetarian - someone who doesn't eat meat at all. I hear it's a little tricky to do that and still get all the vitamins etc. that you need. But Haley's gone and done it. See her question below. Any other veggie girls out there?

Hi,
I just went vegetarian today. I noticed I couldn't find any stuff about vegetarians on your site. I need more info!!! Can you PLEASE HELP?!
Haley, 9

For more info on vegetarian eating, try this article.

What's a Vegetarian?

Also, I thought I'd include a link to a delicious veggie recipe. Yes, vegetarians eat peanut butter - a great source of protein!

Peanut butter and banana sandwich

Think pink!
Jemma

Losing sleep over a sleepover

Did you ever say something that you wish you could take back? Lilly is in that situation. She blurted out YES! when her BFFs asked if she could go to a sleepover, but her parents said no. What to do?

Dear PLS,
i told my best frnds that i would come over to their sleepover but when
i asked my parents if i could go they told me i couldnt!!! ITS SO
UNFAIR!!! and everyday my best frnds call me to ask me if im going i
keep on saying yes everytime. wht am i gonna do now??? i cant tell them
tht i cant go!!
Lilly, 13

I say Lilly needs to come clean and tell her friends the truth. And the sooner the better. As for parents - they can be frustrating. But find out why you can't go. Is it because you have something else to do? Is it because they don't know your friends' parents well enough? Try to solve the problem and set up another sleepover date. Maybe your mom and dad would be OK with your friends coming to your house for a sleepover sometime soon.

Any other advice for Lilly out there?

Think pink!
Jemma

She's in the middle of a big BFF fight

Those of us who are blessed to have more than one BFF will understand this problem. Jade says her two BFFs are fighting and she's caught in the middle.

Dear PLS,
My two best friends are fighting!!! I try to talk them into forgiving each other and none of them would and it's driving me crazy cause both of them wants to hang out with me and if I hang out with one of them the other one gets mad. WHAT AM I GONNA DO?
Jade, 13

Have you ever been stuck in the middle of a fight between your BFFs? Oh my, I guess I'd just do everything possible to get them together to work it out. My advice to Jade is to put her foot down and say: I will hang out with both of you, not just one of you.

What do you think? Let's give Jade some advice to hopefully solve this messy BFF situation!

Think pink!
Jemma

Her BFF has an attitude

Hi all,
Being confident is a strange thing. People say you should like yourself and be proud of yourself. But what if someone acts SUPERIOR to everyone else? Is that confidence gone too far? That's what our friend below is asking today.

Dear PLS,
What do you do if your bff is acting like she is way better than you??
=), 14

What do you think about this one? What kind of advice can we give =)? Seems to me you shouldn't be sooooo confident in yourself that you make other people feel bad. This article on self-esteem - how a person feels about herself - could be helpful.

What other advice do you guys have?

Think pink!
Jemma

Friends no more?

Boyfriend break-ups are one thing, but what about when your BFF breaks up with you? Really upsetting. Let's try to help out Olivia.

Dear PLS,
What to do when your bff acts like you're not friends anymore and gives back your friendship bracelet?
Olivia, 10

I think the solution is to talk to that friend and find out what's going on. Did you have an argument over something? Maybe she's upset about something but hasn't told you? So give it your best shot at trying to work things out. But if she won't talk or is just being mean, accept that this friendship isn't going to snap right back into place. Maybe reach out to other friends so you don't feel alone, Olivia?

What else, pink locker girls? How should Olivia deal with this tough situation?
Think pink!
Jemma

The race to be popular

Hello! Today's question has to do with something we've all thought about - being popular. In my experience, most people don't think they're popular enough. Here's Lola's question:

Dear PLS,
I'm not exactly the most popular girl in the class, because almost everyone in my class has a boyfriend!
How can I be more popular?
Lola

Lola, I think the answer to this question depends on what your definition of popular is. Is it having a boyfriend? Is it having a lot of BFFs? Is it making certain sports teams or being a leader in other groups, such as student council? I think it would be great if being popular meant that a lot of people liked you because you were someone that was fun, friendly, and easy to hang out with. (But I know that's not always how it works out.)

What do you guys think? Can you do something to make yourself more popular? Should you?

Think pink!
Jemma

Cheer up ideas for Emily's mum/mom?

I love this question from Emily. It's so sweet and thoughtful! Here's what she had to say:

Dear PLS,
My Mum is divorced and she works really hard and I wanna do something for her that will really cheer her up. I make her cards and pictures and buy her the occasional chocolates or gifts. I wanted to do something really different that she would love, any ideas? (I'm not very good at cooking though)
Thanks,
Emily

We all love M-O-M, but it's especially cool that Emily wants to do more than the usual stuff. I think it's great that she already gives her cards and treats. One thing I know my mom likes is when she gets a break from her normal chores. So what if you offer to clean up the dishes or fold the laundry and let her do something else - like have a nice cup of coffee and read a book? It's free and I bet she'd like it!

Now, who out there has other cheer-up ideas? What would your own mom like? If you come up with a good idea for Emily, might as well do it for your mom, too! (Oh dear, does that mean I have to do the dishes tonight?)

Think pink!
Jemma

Snow Day!

Is it snowing where you are? I am positively snowbound - and getting just a wee bit tired of being stuck in the house. What are your best ideas for keeping busy when the weather outside is frightful?

I like to...

• read
• do a cooking project
• make collages from old magazines
• play board games and card games
• watch movies
• organize my closet - farewell to stuff that's old or doesn't fit!
• talk/text friends

Once the storm is over, I'll go outside. If you're going sledding or doing winter sports, check out this article: Winter Sports

You also can be uber-helpful and shovel outside for your family or for neighbors, especially older ones. Any other snowy ideas. Please share!

Think pink! (and stay warm)

Jemma

Don't believe everything you see...

You all have got to run through this slide show from Newsweek magazine. They show you oodles of examples of how magazine photos are changed to make women look thinner and more perfect.

I love a pretty magazine cover as much as the next girl, but in these cases they would have had perfectly lovely photos even without the trickery! And hello, we girls don't need to compare ourselves to women who are impossibly perfect.

Check it out!
Unattainable Beauty Slide Show

Think pink!
Jemma

iPad (tee-hee)

OK, at first I thought it was just me. When Apple announced the new iPad, all I could think of was that OTHER kind of pad. But maybe, I thought, it's because I think about puberty entirely too much.

But no, turns out lots of people, especially girls, had the same reaction. One reporter said, "You can bet there wasn't a woman in the room when they came up with that name." Another joked: It's really cool, but can you swim with it?

See a news report HERE.

Funny, funny, but yes I'd still love to own one - looks like a giant iPhone! What about you girls - did the name give you a giggle?

Think pink!

Jemma

Bothersome boy!

Grrrrr...there always seems to be a certain someone who knows how to irritate you. Emily wrote in with this sort of problem, so let's hear what she has to say and try to help!

Dear PLS,
How do I get a boy in my class to stop making fun of me. I am not going to tell anyone because I don't want to be a tattle tale! None of my friends will stand up for me!!
Emily, 13

No. 1, Emily, don't worry about being a tattle tale. If someone is really bothering you and nothing else will work, please do tell someone. Is this guy annoying, a bully, or both? If you're dealing with a bully, you try the link below for more advice.

Dealing with Bullies

What else, Pink Locker girls? How do you deal with annoying little people who are rude?

Think pink!
Jemma

Valentine's Day - It's coming super fast!

What are you doing for Valentine's Day? Are you sending Valentine cards or do you think that's baby-ish.? I don't! And, most importantly, is there a certain someone you would like to be your Valentine?

I like to daydream about Valentine's Day, but the truth is, nothing romantic has ever really happened to me on that day. And the only person I know for 100% sure will get me a card and a gift is MY MOM. Of course, I always think of sending Forrest a card, but I never do. Too chicken!

So if you have ideas on making Valentine's Day more successful, it's time to share. For my part, I have one, good idea - cookies. Try these cookies - my grandma's recipe. They are delish. And, of course, you'll want to make them in heart shapes and decorate them with pink icing.

Think pink!

Jemma

Pink Book Club

Hi. I just noticed this comment on another post and thought we should discuss.

I just finished the book.....it was great! I read it all online.....sorry that im a little off topic here....but i want to know what other girls' opinions are....leave another comment please!!!!!!!!!

Thanks for the compliment. We're glad you liked the book! If you haven't read it, check it out by clicking the "Read the Book" link on the left.

Any other book reviewers out there? Please share your thoughts!

Think pink!
Jemma

Here's to a PINK 2010!

It's New Year's Eve and of course that makes me think about the year behind us. Last year stands out because it's the year that The Pink Locker Society was born with a book and a website. The response has been wonderful - so many great girls looking for answers together.

Since April 28, we have received 17,633 questions from girls. WOW! So if you have been waiting for an answer, you can understand why. Very quickly, we realized that we couldn't do it alone. That's why we started asking for your help and posting some questions on the blog. Please keep helping us. Your advice is great and we really appreciate it!

So often the questions are about crushes and boys. That's no big surprise. More than 13,000 girls answered our poll question: What should you do about a secret crush? "Shhhh! Don't tell him!" won with 8,800 girls choosing that option.

But here's something that we don't want to keep secret: 2010 is going to be an even bigger, better year! The Pink Locker Society will have some big news about a SEQUEL, so stay tuned for Book 2. For now, we're wishing you whatever kind of New Year's Eve makes you happy - a loud party with noisemakers and lots of guests or a quiet little celebration with some special people.

Happy New Year everyone!

Think Pink!

Jemma

Tummy Trouble

Today's question is a good reminder that we all can become a little body obsessed. Do you ever look at your body, compare it to other girls or even to women in magazines and on TV? "Not Feeling Sexy" said she's worried that her tummy is not flat.

Dear PLS,
I really really REALLY need your help. Wherever i look all these girls have these sexy flat tummys and figures but i look like Ive eaten a ball.It makes me really embarrassed and Ive tried to lose my BIG tummy but it doesn't seem to work.I really need help and ive asked the PLS before but i dont know where to go for my answer.
PLEASE HELP
from not feeling sexy, 13

First, I'd say there's no requirement that you feel sexy. What does feeling sexy mean, anyway? And I'd admit that there are times when I see myself in a photo or in the mirror and I don't like everything I see. It's hard not to compare yourself to others. Have you seen my friend, Piper?!

But here's what I'm working on - a good resolution for all of us in 2010. I'm going to try not to say negative things about myself, even in my own head. So when I'm tempted to think that I'm too short or my boobs are too small, I'll find something better to focus on. For instance, "I look great in my new green sweater" or "I ran a mile today without stopping."

Also remember that it's OK to be a REAL GIRL who looks normal and not like an airbrushed magazine cover. The truth is that people in magazines are often very beautiful but sometimes get extra help from technology. With computer software, they can erase a pimple or make someone's hips look smaller. So even already attractive people end up looking unbelievably perfect in photos. I like this YouTube video because it shows how lots of girls think about this stuff and what REAL BEAUTY is.

Now it's time to hear from you! What do you say Pink Locker Girls? What advice do you have for someone who doesn't like a part of her body.

Think pink!
Jemma

Help for Carolina (who can't see the book)

Today I received a note from Carolina, 12, who was having trouble seeing the book online. Carolina, my best guess is that your computer is blocking pop-ups. That's when a whole new window "pops up" - in addition to the window you're already seeing.

To solve this, I'd ask a parent if they can disable that while you're on http://www.pinklockersociety.org/. Happy reading!

Think pink!
Jemma

Vote Selena for Class Vice President!

Hey there,
Have you ever run for a leadership job, like captain of a sports team or president of your class at school? Selena is doing just that and needs our advice.

DEAR PLS,
JEMMA THIS A SUPER EMERGENCY!!!!
I AM CAMPAIGNING FOR VICE PRESIDENT AT MY SCHOOL!!! I NEED ADVICE! PLEEEZ RESPOND AND POST THIS!!!!!I HAVE NEVER CAMPAIGNED BE4!
THANKS!!!!!!
SELENA, 12

When someone writes in all capital letters, you know they are serious. I think it's awesome that Selena's running for vice president. Women make excellent leaders, if you ask me. My advice for Selena would be to decide why she wants to run and then tell her classmates. Otherwise, they might just think she's in it for popularity or something like that. Selena, tell them why you would serve your class well!

Hey, this is reminding me of that movie Napoleon Dynamite! Remember when Pedro was running for student council president?

OK, Pink Locker leaders: Who out there has run for something? Any campaign advice for Selena?

Think pink (and vote for Selena)!
Jemma

When your crush sends mixed signals...

Hello,
One minute it seems like a boy likes you. He winks at you or teases you in that "just kidding" kind of way. He asks if you are going the the hayride. Hmmmmmm...you think - what does it mean? Then the next minute, you hear he likes someone else and he's cozying up to her during the very same hayride he asked if you were attending! What gives?

But before we blame it all on boys and their impossible-to-understand ways, girls are guilty, too. I know I have felt one way about a guy one minute and the next minute I'm not so sure. (Not about Forrest, of course.) Even more often, I wonder if I'm giving mixed signals to guys who might like me, but I don't even realize it. Is it a mixed signal to say hi to someone or say, "I like your shirt?"

So for all those reasons, today I'm featuring questions from girls who are asking about mixed signals.

Dear PLS,
I have a major crush on this boy.
There is only one thing: We are sworn enemies.
My friends think that he has a crush on me because he'll talk to them but won't when I'm around.
Please help me!
I've got it bad!
Thanks,
Regina, aka Green Girl
P.S. this is my fourth time writing. :)

Dear PLS,
What happens when you break up with someone but you still like them?
Caitlin, 11

heeey,
im totally in lovee with this onee guy but his mood swings are kinda givin me whiplash one minute hes totally nice but the next he's really moody, is this normal or should i give up this is the third time ive asked this plz answer xxxxx
LoveeStuck, 13

Green Girl (Regina), Caitlin, and LoveeStuck all need our help. What do you say? I say try not to over-analyze every little moment. That's easier to say than to do, though. If Forrest, my crush extraordinaire, says "Hey," I put it under the microscope. Other ideas on dealing with mixed signals?

Think pink!
Jemma

Thanks for...YOU!!!

Hello Pink Locker girls!

Tomorrow is Thanksgiving and it seems only right to say what I'm thankful for. Of course, I'm thankful for my family and my friends and the fact that I have enough food to eat and a snug little house to live in. Heck, I'm even thankful for the huge crush I have on Forrest. (It certainly is teaching me how big my heart is.)

But there's one other MAJOR thing I'm thankful for. It's you guys. I never expected so many girls to read The Pink Locker Society book, send in questions, and post comments to this blog. Believe it or not, I have received more than 15,000 questions from girls since May. I wish I could answer them all! I know lots of you are waiting for an answer. Look for more questions to be answered in the coming weeks and into 2010.

All those very sincere questions and supportive blog comments make me proud to be a girl. So many of us are just trying to figure stuff out. We are not all mean girls. Before I started the Pink Blog, people told me, "Girls are going to say lots of rude stuff on the blog, so be careful!" But guess what? 99.9% of the comments have been positive, supportive, funny, and sweet. I especially love it when girls help other girls and really try to understand what that person is going through.

We truly are all in the same boat. Lucky for us, it's a pink one.

Think Pink and Happy Thanksgiving!
Jemma

P.S. Tell me what you are thankful for this Thanksgiving!

Pimple advice for Savannah?

Ugh. I know how Savannah feels. Pimples have a way of showing up exactly when you do not want them. Here's her question.

Dear PLS,
I have a huge pimple that sits right under my eyelid and tomorrow I have a school dance. My sis says it's noticeable but I don't know how to get rid of it using no lotions. Any help?
Savannah, 11

In my opinion, you have to just accept that you have a pimple and do what you can. Don't try to pop it because that can make it more noticeable. A little flesh-colored makeup called concealer can help it blend in with your skin. Maybe your mom can help with that? Try not to worry too much. If the dance is like dances at my school, the lighting is kinda dark so no one may ever know but you! For more info about how to handle pimples, CLICK HERE.

OK Pink Locker girls, anyone else want to give some advice? Or maybe you've been in exactly the same situation?

Think pink!

Jemma

Another Delaware date!

1. Do you live in Delaware?

2. Do you want to know more about growing up?

3. Would you like to make a beaded bookmark and eat snacks?

I hope lots of you can say yes to all three questions. Debra Moffitt, author of The Pink Locker Society, will be hosting a mom-and-daughter event this Friday (10/23) at the Brandywine Library in Wilmington, Delaware. It starts at 6:30 p.m.

Directions to the library HERE.

She'll be reading a few chapters from the book, taking questions from girls and moms, and sharing a fun craft. If you're a reader, you should have a beautiful bookmark!

Many thanks to The Friends of the Brandywine Library, the wonderful group that's sponsoring this event.

Think pink!
Jemma

Let's hear it for our 10,000th customer!

OK, so by now it's clear that we are just blown away by all the questions and comments we're getting. Thank you, thank you, thank you. And my apologies if you have written in and not received an answer. You are not alone! We have received more than 12,000 questions from girls since late April, when we launched this website.

So the best we can do is answer as many as we can. We also hope the questions we pick are dilemmas lots of girls can relate to. But we picked today's question in a random way. We scrolled back through all our email and picked out the 10,000th question. Here she is!

Dear PLS,
i'm in fifth grade but my crush is in eighth grade. i think if i tell him i like him he will make fun of me what should i do?
Chasity, 10

I love this question. Who hasn't had their eye on a dreamy, but significantly older, boy? I personally think three years age difference is too much if you're thinking of him like a boyfriend. But that doesn't stop you from liking the guy. Why not be friends with him? Since he's older, he probably knows his way around the school. Ask him who his favorite teacher was in 5th grade or ask his opinion about the cafeteria. It's a long way off, but someday you'll be 21 and he'll be 24. Then three years won't be such a big deal.

Agree or disagree? Who wants to help the writer of our 10,000th question?

Hey Delaware Girls: You're Invited!

If you live in the Wilmington, Delaware area, you're invited to a special evening at a wonderful library! Debra Moffitt, author of The Pink Locker Society, will be hosting a mom and daughter event this Friday (9/25) at the Brandywine Library at 6:30 p.m.

Directions to the library HERE.

She'll be reading a few chapters from the book, taking questions from girls and moms, and signing copies of the book. You can bet Debra will be talking about the PBBs (periods, bras, and boys). So grab your mom and head on over this Friday. It's going to be fun and there will be snacks!

Everyone is invited to the Brandywine Library again on Friday, October 23 at 6:30 p.m., when Debra will be hosting a book discussion for moms and daughters. That night, they'll be making beaded bookmarks, too.

Many thanks to The Friends of the Brandywine Library, the wonderful group that is sponsoring the two-part event.

Think pink!

Jemma

Dear Aunt Flo: Please call for directions

OK. I like this question for a lot of reasons. No. 1, I completely get what "Missing that P" is saying. She's reading The Pink Locker Society and she is missing the "P" in the PBBs (periods, bras, and boys). If you've read the book, you know that I am also in this same boat.

Like me, "Missing That P" probably could use a reminder about how normal it is to be 12 and not have your period yet. Lastly, I love this question because "Missing That P" has a great imagination and she's a good writer. We get lots of emails from girls who are anxiously awaiting their periods, but this is the first one to imagine Aunt Flo in this very clever way. Enjoy!

Hey,

I'm reading the book and I have a PBB prob. I'm REALLY anxious about the P part. I don't know why but I'm 12 (well next month) and I'm in sixth grade and I'm seventh grade age 'cause I'm a late birthday. My friend who's in seventh grade is starting her period and I haven't and shes only a month and five days older than me. I'm starting to feel like Aunt Flo has taken a wrong turn or something because I haven't seen her coming yet.Please help me! please!

Love,

Missing That P.

(PLEASE!!!!!)

OK, MTP. Here's the reminder we slower bloomers need about Aunt Flo and her timing:

Most girls get their first periods between ages 10 and 15. The average age is 12, but every girl's body has its own schedule. Although there's no one right age for a girl to get her period, there are some clues that it will come soon. Typically, a girl gets her period about 2 years after her breasts start to develop. Another sign is vaginal discharge fluid (sort of like mucus) that a girl might see or feel on her underwear. This discharge usually begins about 6 months to a year before a girl gets her first period.

I hope that helps. Read more HERE. Any other advice or support for Missing That P?

Think pink!

Jemma

Jess needs our help!

Today's question is a tough one.

Dear Jemma:

I am a bit overweight and i don't know what to do all the people in my class make fun of me.

Jessica, 13

I get pretty upset thinking about people making fun of Jessica. Though we have some control over the way we look, it's very hard when people criticize you for something like body shape. Here's my best advice for Jessica:

1. Get help figuring out if you are actually overweight. You can get an idea by using a BMI calculator. It can help to have a parent help you with this. Don't panic if your BMI score puts you in the overweight category. It's just a piece of information that will help you, your parents, and your doctor figure out what to do next.

2. Talk to your doctor. Lots of kids talk to the doctor about their weight. If you are not at a healthy weight, your doctor can suggest steps to take. And if your weight is OK, your doctor can tell you that, too.

3. Know you are not alone. Kids can't do it alone when it comes to eating healthy and getting enough exercise. Those two things are really important! Your parents, other family members, doctor, and others can be part of the team that helps you reach a healthy weight. And don't go it alone when it comes to people making fun of you. Tell a parent or a teacher. Ask your friends for advice and support.

4. Be healthy either way. Whether someone is overweight or not, they will be healthier if they do simple things like ...

• eat a healthy breakfast


• cut out soda


• get lots of activity

Take a walk, jump some rope, ride your bike, or chase your little brother (or sister, or dog) around the park. Also cut down on the amount of time you spend watching TV and using the computer. Hey, you're using the computer right now! Promise me, you'll take a break soon and move around. Here's my favorite activity tip: DANCE PARTY! Turn on your favorite music and dance around your room. Let other people (pets included!) join in.

I hope that helped. Anyone else out there dealing with a weight question? What has worked for you?

Think pink!

Jemma

Tennis player Melanie Oudin BELIEVES!

Have you heard of Melanie Oudin? She's the 17-year-old tennis player who has made a huge splash at the U.S. Open in New York. Do you know what an upset means? One kind of "upset" is to be all sad or angry, but the other kind is when something unexpected happens in sports.

Melanie Oudin is ranked 70th in the world of women's tennis, but she upset several very good tennis players in recent matches. The last one she beat was ranked 13th in the world. Could she go all the way and be in the final match? Time will tell. Read more about her here.

How fired up is she? Her PINK sneakers include one special word: BELIEVE. It's in that skinny white band in the black rubber heel shown here. If you squint, you can just about read it.

Do you ever do stuff like that to psych yourself up for something? What kinds of things do you do? I think it's a great idea. Be your own cheerleader. You can do it!

Think pink!

Jemma

How's school going?

Hi! School has started for lots of us. And I'm wondering how things are going for you guys. I'd also like to say that I am already getting kinda disorganized. So many folders, notebooks, three-ring binders, and accordion files. This weekend, I have to cover ALL my books.

In the hope that I might get more organized this year, I took this quiz.

Quiz: Are You Organized?

Why don't you take it, too? Then, let's all take the advice at the end so we can ORGANIZE, FOCUS, GET IT DONE!

Think pink (in an organized way)!

Jemma

The opposite of flat

Since we already talked about late bloomers this week, it's only fair that we give the other side of the story. I am really surprised at how many girls worry about having large breasts. Someone like me spends a lot of time thinking "grow, grow, grow!" But I'm glad so many pink locker girls wrote in to say what it's like when everyone is noticing your boobs. It sounds annoying - about as annoying as it is when someone teases me for being Flatty McFlat Chest.

Here's what three girls had to say:

Juliete, 14, said she tried wearing baggier clothes, but everyone still notices her boobs: "My doctor says it's normal. But I hate how boys make rude remarks. SAVE ME!"

Shelby, 11, said she gets frustrated that everyone is always talking about wanting huge breasts. She doesn't, but she has 'em: "They don't talk about how some girls feel weird about too big ones. Help before i explode!!!!!!!:o("

Isabel, 11, wears a bra and her friends tease her a little. "Sometimes my friends embarrass me in front of the boys. They are really good friends and I don't want to mean but what should I do?"

I feel a little weird giving advice on this topic. It's not like I know the feeling, but I would say this: I am not going to make comments about other people's bodies. Honestly, I had no idea that girls with larger breasts would weird at all. I thought they were the lucky ones! I also want to pass along some advice from Piper, who is the most developed of all my friends.

Advice from Piper for people who stare: Learn to handle gawkers. It’s annoying to have people stare at your chest. But you never have to just put up with rude stares or comments. Tell a parent, teacher, or another adult if someone is bothering you in this way. You can ignore them and walk away but if you are feeling bold just tell the offending gawker: Yo, my eyes are up here!

I also want to pass along a great T-shirt slogan I saw. It said: Love your body already! See the photo there? I know it's not easy and we'll all have our days, but I'm going to try to do this and I hope you do, too.

Think pink!

Jemma

Late bloomer blues

Hello pink friends!
I know we've talked about this before, but I think it's worth bringing up again. Being the "late bloomer" can be hard. I know, I know, you early bloomers will say being the first one with boobs and a period etc. is hard, too. I'm sure that's true. But today, we're going to talk about the slower-growing girls out there. If you've read the book, you know I'm one of you!

Today's question is from someone who signed her email as "?" so I'm going to call her Question Girl. How appropriate because don't we all have so many questions about this stuff?

Dear PLS,
Hi PLS,
i love your book! I'm going into grade 7 and quite a few of my friends are starting to get their period, i know that a lot of girls still haven't got it but i feel so undeveloped, any advice?
Question Girl, 12

Number 1, I'd say that it's important to remember that periods happen in a wide stretch of time. Some girls are early, like 10, and other girls are later, like 15. It's normal, normal, normal that some girls will be later than others.

But what I think Question Girl is saying is that you still have to deal with being the lesser developed one every day. I know how you feel Question Girl. Some people might tease you about being a late bloomer. Even when they don't mean to hurt your feelings, sometimes they do. Also, no one likes feeling left out. If everyone is talking about "my period this and my period that," it's like you're not a member of their secret club.

But remember that you're part of this secret club, The Pink Locker Society, wink-wink. And also remember that you're always growing, little by little. Here's a fun activity that will prove it. Get out some photos of you over the years. Go from your cutie-pie baby stage, to preschool, to kindergarten and on up.

Pay special attention to the last few years. Do you have a different hairstyle now ? Maybe you've changed the kind of clothes you wear. And I bet you'll see that you've grown and changed quite a bit- even though you'd still like to change and grow even more.

Think pink all you late bloomers!
Jemma

Middle School Advice Needed FAST!

Hello all you middle schoolers! If you already have a year or more of middle school under your belt, this question is for you. Our friend Krystiana, 11, is starting middle school and she's pretty worried. Here's her question:

Dear PLS,
In September i am starting my first year of middle school, and i am sssssssooo nervous and worried.I'm worried i won't to each class in time, I won't make new friends, changing in the locker room and more.I am nervous about have 7-8 different teachers and if they will like me. So PLEASE can you give me some tips and advice about middle school.Thanks!!!
Krystiana

Don't you just want to give this girl a hug? I'd say it's true that middle school has new challenges: lockers, switching classes, more teachers etc. But it's also heaps more fun than elementary school. There are so many cool things to do - new clubs, activities, sports. Even eating in the cafeteria is more fun, I think.

Any more advice for Krystiana? Also, at your school this year, please tell me you'll be nice to the 6th graders. They need our help. Remember, even if you feel very mature now, you were once a 6th grader, too! For more info, read this article, Moving to Middle School.

Think pink!
Jemma

Drama-rama

When you look "drama" up in the dictionary, it says stuff about "a literary composition to be performed by actors blah, blah, blah..." But when I think of drama, I think of all the stuff that goes on in school and out of school, involving boys, friends, family etc.

Too much drama! That's what a lot of girls say who write to The Pink Locker Society with questions. But how can you tone down the drama in your own life? I, for one, have found myself whipped into a frenzy over stuff and I did not like the feeling one bit. Does anyone want to be the girl who busts into tears at school over a boy or a fight with a friend? I think not!

So I got this advice from a pretty smart person. (She's a mom but she's not MY mom.)

1. Try to keep a cool head if some drama is going down. Maybe your best friends are fighting or there's a tussle over a boy, or someone made the field hockey team and someone didn't. Whatever it is, know that you can always step back for a moment. Step away from the drama!
2. Unplug and chill. It takes two to have drama, so it's perfectly OK to set aside the cell phone and just let the situation settle down. Maybe the fighting friends will make up. Maybe the boy issue will get better. You don't have to participate. If you want to express yourself about it, you might write in a journal. You also might talk to someone who's not directly involved like your older sister, cousin, or grandma.
3. Take care of yourself. Have you ever noticed how little kids get really cranky if they don't get their nap or they're hungry? We're all a little like that if we don't get enough sleep or we haven't had enough healthy food to eat that day. Or maybe you've been really stressed out because you've been studying a lot. Or there's a family situation at home. No matter what's going on, you'll be more in control if you feel strong and rested.

I hope that helped. OK, Pink Locker girls, what are your best tips for avoiding drama?
Think pink!
Jemma

Should Kelsey ask him to the dance?

I think we've all been in Kelsey's shoes. She likes someone. There's an event coming up - in this case, a dance. And she wonders if she should be brave and ask him. Here's her question:

hey pls,
i need help i am scared to ask this boy to dance if he doesnt ask me at the 7th and 8th grade dance i really like him and i dont know if he likes me bac people say we would b the greatest couple but i dk if he likes me how do u tell if he likes you?? and how do u ask him to dance?? without being desperate or embarrassed if he says no??
kelsey, 12

What we need here is a Magic 8 ball to tell the future. Will he ask Kelsey? Does he like her? Will they have a good time if they go together. But alas, my Magic 8 ball is just a toy and doesn't REALLY know what's going to happen. No one does. So I'd suggest Kelsey go to the dance with a bunch of friends and hope that her crush is there, too. Do you guys really need to have dates? Keep it casual and maybe you can figure out how he feels at the dance.

What do you think Pink Locker girls? Agree with me or do you think Kelsey should be bolder?

Think pink!
Jemma

Becky and her "grandpa situation"

We've talked a lot about how to tell your mom you need a bra or that you have period questions. But check out Becky's situation. What if you were the only girl in your household? Who to tell? What to say? We've got to give her some ideas! Here's her question:

Dear PLS,
I live with my grandpa and brothers...no aunts, mom, grandma...I just had my first visit from 'Aunt Flo' and don't know how to tell my Papa. We don't communicate very well...Anyway, this is the second time I asked.
Thanks PLS!
Becky, 12

OK, I think Becky should just tell her Papa that she needs a few "female items" or "personal items" at the store and could he give her some money for them. My guess is that he won't ask too many questions and will be like, "Sure, fine. Get what you need." Guys, especially an older guy, has been around for a while and he knows that girls of a certain age get periods. So, he'll probably know what's up or just figure Becky needs some girly thing and take her to the store.

If he says, "What do you need?" She could just say, "Some GIRL stuff." I bet he'll get the picture.

But just as important as getting supplies from the store, I think Becky should have someone she can talk to about girl stuff. A best friend, her best friend's mom, or her older sister? Or maybe she has an older cousin or a female neighbor that she's close with? Getting your period is a new thing and I know it would make me feel better to have someone who could answer some questions. Of course, Becky can always come to The Pink Locker Society, but a real live person is even better for this kinda thing.

And maybe Becky would really like to tell her grandfather? If that's the case, I'd just say something like, "I wanted to let you know I got my first period so I'll be needing some stuff from the store." But he's probably not going to be much help on the girly details, so I'd still look for a gal pal to help you with any questions that come up. I hope Becky will READ THIS to learn more about living with grandparents.

What else, Pink Locker girls? Any other good advice for Becky?

Think pink!
Jemma

Discharge discussion

Some of you have been writing in about discharge. What do I mean?

That mucousy stuff that you might see in your undies. Totally normal - and a sign that you are edging toward getting your period. Doctors say vaginal discharge happens about 6 months to a year before your first period happens. So it's a good clue, but not an ironclad guarantee that you'll be getting your first period within a year or so.

You'll find all you every wanted to know about discharge RIGHT HERE.

Think pink!

Jemma

Pass-a-note folding tips (for Briona)

Hello! We have a pass-a-note on our Pink Locker Society website. See it HERE! We even have some instructions on how to fold it in a really cool way. But our friend, Briona, wrote today to say that folding it is kinda hard.

All I have to say is Yeah-UH! It is. It took me forever to finally figure it out.

But you can do it, Briona! To help you out, I also scoped around and found a videos you can watch to make it easier. This note is a little different than ours, but it's just as cool. And be sure to check out the folder's nails - they're red-alicious!

See note-folding video HERE!

What about you Pink Locker girls? Any note folding advice for Briona? Summer's the perfect time to pass a note to a friend. No teachers around to snag them!

Think pink!

Jemma

Would you do a dangerous job?

Have you seen the amazing video of the two reporters who were being held prisoner in North Korea? Former President Bill Clinton went to North Korea and negotiated their release.

All this got me to thinking: Would I do a dangerous job, like being a journalist in a place like North Korea, where people don't have many rights and you can be arrested and sentenced to 12 years of hard labor?

Other jobs have risks, too, like being a police officer, firefighter, soldier in the military, or even someone who works with animals at the zoo. Being in The Pink Locker Society sometimes feels a little dangerous - but not that dangerous! I like to think that I could be really brave someday - to take risks because the job I'm doing is really important.

What about you - can you see yourself doing a dangerous job?

Click here to find out more about the freed journalists. They're two women, by the way. Go girls!
Think pink!
Jemma

Talking to Mom/Mum about your period

Hey there. I went to summer camp and when I came back - whoosh! - I was overwhelmed with your questions. Keep them coming and be sure to remind me if you have asked more than once. That's what R.H. did and I'm glad. I put those on the top of the list.

So without further delay, R.H. wants to know how to talk to your mom about IT, also known as your period. Here's her question. Notice that she calls mom "mum." She must be writing from the U.K. Awesome!

Hi Pls,
Good book.But i have started my period and am not sure how to talk openly with my mum about periods? Please Help!

R.H., 14

As everyone knows if you read the book, I do not have my period yet. But I have talked to my mom about other possibly embarrassing stuff, so here's my advice...

1. Find a good time to talk, like when it's just the two of you in the car.

2. Be honest and to the point, like "Hey mom, I got my period and I have questions. Can I ask you?"

3. Branch out, if you want, and also talk to older sisters, older friends, cousins etc.

What else am I missing, pink locker girls? What's your advice for R.H.?

Think pink!

Jemma

New friend + old friends = trouble (for Alicia)

Friends can make you very happy or ... not. Alicia wants some help with a friend problem.

dear pls,

i have recently become friends with a really popular girl who is soo nice. my old friends are really jealous of me being with her and threatened her the other day and said that if she played with me they would get her or something. my old friends are starting freak me out :( what do i do!!?!??!?!

alicia, 13

Hey Alicia, I'm wondering if there's a way you could bring your old friends and new friend together somehow. If they feel accepted by you and your new friend, maybe the meanness will end? What do you think, Pink Locker girls, am I right?

Think pink!

Jemma

Don't hog my BFF!

Nichole has a good question. I know I've felt this way from time to time. My best friend, Kate, is so nice and popular and nice. Did I mention how nice she is? Well, she's friends with loads of people. I know she's my bestie, but sometimes I feel like other people take too much of her time. Nichole has a similar question...

Dear PLS,
I have this best friend and all the other girls hog her. how do i get her to like me the best?
nichole
ps. go pls u girls r great! i luv pls!

Can you get someone to like you best and spend the most time with you? Or is it better to hunt around for a different BFF, someone who wants to have just one best friend? I also wonder if you spend too much time competing for someone's attention, if that makes you annoying. Maybe better to enjoy the time you do have with that special friend and the best-best-estest thing will happen naturally?

Think pink!

Jemma

A summer book 4 you!

I recently went to summer camp (more about that later) and I met a new friend. Her name's Maeve, rhymes with "wave." Cool name, don't you think? She - and I quote - "loves, loves, loves boys, movies, drama, anything pink." So how could I NOT like Maeve? Anyway, it turns out that Maeve has a bunch of BFFs that call themselves The Beacon Street Girls. You can read about them in 20 books. That's right, 20!

If you're on The Pink Locker Society site, you probably like reading stuff online. More and more ENTIRE BOOKS are being read online or on those interesting reader things some people have. The Pink Locker Society is proud to be available, entirely, for free online. And now one of the Beacon Street Girls' books - Worst Enemies/Best Friends - is available online for free.

Read Worst Enemies/Best Friends

But you have to read fast. It will be available just until August 7. Check it out and remind me to tell you more about my new friend, Maeve. We shared a campfire sing-along that I will never forget! And please let me know what you think of the BSG and this free book.

Think pink!

Jemma

A kissing question

OK, so we already took care of Emily, see below, who had to kiss a boy in a play. But that was just acting. Today's question is about real life. K.D., 11, has been waiting patiently for an answer, so let's try to help!

Dear PLS,
this is the 3rd time i asked u this and i think its pretty important 4 girls advice!!!!
my bf has had alot of gfs so far and he has kissed almost every1 of them. what if he trys 2 kiss me? im not ready 2 kiss yet but i dont want him 2 think im not in2 him anymore i do really like him! please help pls!

K.D.

Oh, K.D. I think you already have your answer. You said "I'm not ready to kiss yet." I think our hearts and minds are pretty smart and if it doesn't feel right, don't do it. If he wants to kiss you, you might have to tell him the same thing, but in a nice way, of course. What do you think, Pink Locker Girls, am I right? What's your advice for K.D.?

Think pink!

Jemma

Period, Where R U?

If you read The Pink Locker Society, you know that I have not yet gotten my period. And that this fact is very much on my mind (though less so now that I know plenty of other girls my age are still waiting).

But today, we're going to tackle a different issue that affects TONS of girls based on the many questions we've recieved. The issue is: What if you got your period once, twice, or a few times, and then ... NOTHING. You're waiting, and, hello? Period, where did you go?

I went straight to my doctor friend with this one and she was happy to tell me that this is VERY NORMAL especially in the first year after a girl gets her first period. Here's what she suggests:

1. Write down on a calendar the first day of your period. That way you'll know for sure how long it's been between periods.

2. Remember that a normal cycle is between 21 and 45 days. Always count from the first day of your last period.

3. If you're concerned or have questions, talk to a parent and/or your doctor.

How about it girls? Anybody out there have this same issue? For more info, read this:

All About Menstruation

Think pink!

Jemma

Her crush moved away

Summer seems like a romantic time with all the starry nights and crickets chirping, but some girls are writing in saying they feel kinda sad. Why? Because they like someone and they haven't seen him since school let out. D.G. has it even worse. Her crush just moved away.

Does anyone have advice for getting over someone who's gone away?

Dear PLS,
This is the third time i've asked this question!!! My crush moved and i was really close to .I've been crying. What should i do?

D.G., 11

Awww...D.G. I'm sorry you've been so sad. I'd say wipe your tears and find something to keep you busy. Take on a project like planting in your garden or taking up a new sport. Tennis, anyone? It doesn't mean you won't miss your crush, but I think it helps to be out and about when you feel bummed. What else, girls? Any advice for D.G.?

Think pink!

Jemma

He's a boy, he's your friend, but he is not your BOYFRIEND!

OK, I think I have the answer to this one, but probably not the complete answer. Here's what NG wants to know:

Dear PLS,
My best friend is a boy and everyone says we're dating. I usually ignore it but it's really getting annoying. What can I do?
Help me please!

NG

I think you can be friends - even best friends - with anyone, including boys. I'd say if you guys are happy being friends, than who cares what people say. Eventually, they'll stop if they don't think it bothers you.

But...I also think it's easy to start liking someone as more than a friend, especially if you really like this guy as a person. Who out there has a special guy friend? Can you give NG some help? What do you do if people don't buy that you're "just friends?"

Think pink!

Jemma

Is she old enough for a boyfriend?

You know you can drive when you're 16 and vote when you're 18, but how old do you have to be to have a boyfriend? That's what one of our Pink Locker friends wants to know...

dear pls,

im 12 and i wanted to know am i too young to have a boyfriend.. if so whats the proper age to have one?

sonakshi, 12
ps --i love ur site

I say it really depends on what you mean by "boyfriend." I'm in 8th grade and boyfriends are common, but couples don't usually last very long. I had one, for about a week, in 7th grade. He was nice but the whole thing just made me feel weird. And, of course, it wasn't Forrest. (Forrest is my crush of all crushes. Read the book to find out more!)

So what do you say, girls? When is the right age to have a boyfriend? Or is there no right age?

Think pink!

Jemma

Let him down gently

Let me start by saying this is a very POPULAR question. I think it shows how caring and sensitive girls are. The question is this: What if a guy likes you, but you only like him as a friend? How do you tell him? Here are a few girls who are asking this question:

From Mel, 12
This is the 3rd time i've sent this and i've still had no reply!!! PLEASSEE HELP!!!!!!! A boy at my school lyks me and i don't lyk him back!! i don't want to hurt his feelings what do i do!!!

From CH, 12
If a boy asks you out and you dont like them and you dont want to hurt there feelings what should you say?

From Clueless, 13

What do i do if a boy likes me alot but i dont like him and he wont stop trying to contact me and i dont want to hurt his feelings?

Notice how everyone is trying not to hurt the guy's feelings. I, myself, have not had this particular problem, but I think this article has pretty good advice. So girls, what do you do when you need to tell someone you don't like them in a mushy-gushy romantic way?

Think pink!

Jemma

Emergency! She has to kiss a boy in a play!

We get a lot of interesting questions, but this one was REALLY interesting.

Dear PLS
I have to kiss a boy in a play. I need Advice!!

Emily, 13

OMG, I don't know what I would do. It's ACTING of course, so you don't have to actually like the guy, but still could be AWKWARD. My first thought is to try to talk to the guy about it, become his friend, and see if he is nervous, too. I bet he is! Joking about it might make you both feel better.

OK, Pink Locker Girls, what do you say to Emily The Actress about her big stage kiss?!

BTW, all this week we're going to talking about your boy questions. You've sent in tons of dilemmas and quandries about B-O-Y-S!

Think pink!

Jemma

Fast Father's Day Help (for Emileigh)

Father's Day is on its way and I (so far) have nothing for my dear old Dad. Neither does Emileigh, who asks...

Dear PLS,
Fathers day is in a couple of days and I do not no what to get him.I also really want to get him something very special because he is the coolest dad eva.So I need your help and very very fast.

Emileigh

My dad gets a mention or two in the book. He's the environmental engineer fellow who rides his bike to work. Dad says, "Go green or go home." In honor of my environmentally-minded dad, I'm going to give him something green instead of something store-bought. Maybe your dad - or Emileigh's dad - would like one of these COUPONS?

Any other Dad's Day gift ideas out there?

Think pink,

Jemma