Is she old enough for a boyfriend?
You know you can drive when you're 16 and vote when you're 18, but how old do you have to be to have a boyfriend? That's what one of our Pink Locker friends wants to know...dear pls,
im 12 and i wanted to know am i too young to have a boyfriend.. if so whats the proper age to have one?
sonakshi, 12
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I say it really depends on what you mean by "boyfriend." I'm in 8th grade and boyfriends are common, but couples don't usually last very long. I had one, for about a week, in 7th grade. He was nice but the whole thing just made me feel weird. And, of course, it wasn't Forrest. (Forrest is my crush of all crushes. Read the book to find out more!)
So what do you say, girls? When is the right age to have a boyfriend? Or is there no right age?
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I think 18 is a good age
I think 16 is the right age.
It depends. Some parents have a specific age they want. I'd say that as long as you're comfortable with being in a relationship then it's ok. And it also depends if it's a serious relationship or just "puppy love" as they call it; a bf/gf thing that really isn't serious. Your choice. Hope I helped! - Erica :)
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I say the right time to have a boyfriend/girlfriend is when you are ready to commit. In middle school if you are dating do you really think about how you will date for ever and someday get married !! i say start dating when you think that it will lead to something......otherwise if both of you like each other then be friends and get to know each other. and then later when you are ready and think that you guys really have something going then.....bring it to the next level !! <3
Well, im 12 too, ive been going out many times. My sisters have when they were my age too! But there is a big difference between dates and going out. Yeah, we are kinda young for relationships, usually it wont last too.My parents let me group "date". You go out with a guy with a bunch of friends or other dates, [that you know]!!!its also a lot more fun and you dont have to worry about the one on one. Also, you really dont need to start kissing and making out...yet. Wait a while, see if you make it... all that stuff.
In my opinion - you are never to young to have a boyfriend! Its just that as you get older, things tend to get more serious. My first boyfriend was in grade 5. Lasted a couple of days but we still did the asking out thing so it counts lol. next boyfriend, late grade 5. This one went a bit loopy because i swear we went out more than twice in one week :S. But grade 6 and this one lasted nearly 2 months. Im in grade 8 now and havent had a boyfriend since :( but hey - in grade 2 i was playing kisschase and kissed a boy on the cheek!!! I dont know - it depends how YOU see it. You decide when your ready tohave a boyfriend or not! Hope that helped!
I agree with the first post. 18 would be good because you are finally an adult. I am in 8th grade and every girl has a boyfriend except me, but I am ok with that because I don't want one. Being in a "relationship" in middle school can cause major drama and cause some poeple feelings to get hurt alot. Plus it can also get in the way of school work too. I have seen this firsthand in some girls who are all A or B students drop down to C students because they were so distracted by their boyfriends. I really don't suggest it becuase some girls especially the ones at my school get way caught up in it and will do anything to please thier boyfriend. So I say you should wait at leas until your junior maybe sophmore year in high school. Or just wait until your parents say you can have one. Remember boyfriends aren't a neccessity and you don't need them to be cool!
I think that you can date as long as you feel comfortable with it and your parents say it OK. But it's all about how you feel. If you don't feel totally ready, then you're not. I really hope I helped!
11 is a good age you are finslly going 2 middle school!
12 is too young for a boyfriend. It might seem like everyone else has one but think about it, he will probably become your center of attention and then what are you going to end up leaving behind? and if you don't talk then whats the point. You'll probably be graduating with the people in your classes now so it might be snarter to wait.
if you feel like you're ready to date then great! you also need to find out from your parents what they think. also think that you'll be dating more of your life than not. hope this help!
my first crush was in Preschool on a guy named Matthew.. I will never forget him. My first boyfriend was in 1st grade i didnt really know what it was. When he asked me to be his girlfriend i was like "Yes. what's that?" It was funny. I satyed with him until 4th grade. Then i thought it was time to move on. We both did actually. My first kiss on the cheek was with my first love. My first kiss on the lips was with the same guy. I loved him so so so so so much. But he had told a very big secret a personal one. So i broke up with him. Now he completely ignores me. I say hi he doesnt even look at me. He blocked me on email, and doesnt answer my fone calls!
im 11 i have a boyfriend.we went to my graduation dance together and he gave me a necklace. i'm an A student and i'm still an A student.all my friends have had boyfriends since forth grade. even if you dont want a boyfriend tellyour crush you like him. just because you both like each other doesnt make you boyfriend and girlfriend. my bff was going out with my boyfriend about a year ago and of course they broke up but their still very goo d friends. Hope this helps.
I'm only 10 but I haven't gone out with anyone yet.I don't think I've found the right guy yet.So I guess all I'm saying is it depends on you if he's the right guy and you both like eachother thats great.Although when it comes to having a boyfriend keep in mind you have other priorites besides him.
i'm 13 and i don't think i'd want to!!!
I think it just depends on how you feel about it. if your going to be mature about it and you can make good decision then yeah but if your not going to and you want to be a total drama queen then no.
i think that is people trying to grow up 2 fast(no offense) i have made this mistake and want to correct it bcuz your bf will probably not do anything except hug you when in fact u can hug your friends!! :) hope it helps!!
I think when youre mature enough ...
Maybe youngest about 11 and from then on upwards!
Ask your Mom she might not want you to hang around boys too much but then again ...
i thinks that there is no age just when you feel that you are ready for a commited relasonship which can be at any age up to 14 and up
At my school people have been dating since kindergarten and it annoys me! I haven't had a bf yet and I'm happy. You should have a bf (or gf) whenever you think you're ready, but just don't let it get to your head. Hope it helps!
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i think the age should be 18,(you can have crush before that:) but it matters more on the person you want. like it doesn't mean that you're 18 and can't find a boyfriend,then forget it then, love can't escape.......you'll be married in a couple of years :-)
I think that you can date at age 12. I am 12 and my parents will not let me have a boyfriend. if you have a crush, instead of straight up asking him out you should ask someone to ask him if he likes you. A good person to help you is another boy.
hope my advice helped.
:)bridget
I think you should wait till your 13. I'm 12 and i had a boyfriend for awhile. It was awkward for me and he ended up being really immature outside of school. So i'm waiting till I can find a mature boy when im 13 :)
Theres no right age really, but if your looking for a real age my opinion would be 17. Cos the younger you are the less complicated it is, and you dont really "love" eachother when your like 12 or 11 and ages like that. I`m just saying 17 cos I`ve heard of a lot of girls get hurt and stuff. Not hurt like the violent way hurt like the shouting way. I think if a relationship with a guy lasts like 2 years or longer you can continue with it but most relationships last like a month. What most guys want today are just skinny and popular girls. They dont always really care if your nice and friendly, and successfull and smart. I`m not saying all guys are like that, there are lots of guyz out there who do only care about ehats on the inside and not on the outside, but there are just as much guys out there who only care whats on the outside and not in the inside. I think if your older you`ll be able to handle stuff like this better too.
Hope this advice helps!
I think that a good age to have a boyfriend is when you think you are mature enough to handle the responsibilitie and willing to be apart of being called "boyfriend" and "girlfriend". Having i realationship is hard so i heard but keeping through the summer or break is even harder so i heard again
-M.D.
um, i say wait, i also say when your about,say,15,16, i am 11 i steel have about,um, 4 5 years to . but i gess you can have ia school boyfriend. i hope this helps
well i think its all on maturity! if you think you ready to have a boyfriend than thats fine but if u think its weird to be dating than thats fine too... listen to your parents also because you may think they just dont want you to have a life but thats not true. there are reasons parents dont want girls to have boyfriends. and remember that if u think ur old enough then maybe you should
I'm 12. I don't have a bf either. Yes, there are some cute and nice guys. A lot of guys are jerks so just be careful if you do date. If you are very responsible, then find a guy who is not just hot, but sweet on the inside. Make sure it is someone who really cares about you.
Go ahead and have a bf! I think I am ready!
-Brittany :)
Any age. People are different and they may get that special feeling for "him" anytime! "Love can happen anywhere, anytime,any place"
I think anywhere between 14 or 15 and up is a good age....that really is the PROPER age
It depends what you mean by 'boyfriend.' In middle school, a lot of people "go out" without actually going anywhere. You ask someone out, hold hands in between classes, maybe give each other pecks on the lips, and break up soon after. Which is fine and perfectly normal. But when you're twelve you don't need to be actually going on dates, because you're young and still finding yourself. Once you enter high school (and hopefully know a little more about who you are, even if you're still changing) guys become a bigger part of your life. So at 14 dates and actual relationships come to play a lot more. Guys at that age, though, do have their mind in the gutter a LOT, so I wouldn't get very serious with one until about sixteen when you‘re more mature and ready to handle those kinds of things. There are different stages to dating and even though you may want to skip over one and dive straight into another you can't because you have to learn as you go and it's much, much better to make mistakes with a crush early on than a guy you really like (maybe even love) when you're older. So don't jump into things too deep or too fast! You're young and before you know it you'll be ready for a real boyfriend! (And you don't need an exact age either, mine were just estimates, everyone goes at their own pace)
It's whenever u want to, but it gets more popular in 6th 7th and 8th grade
I think 15.
i have already had 8 boyfriends. but they didn't last long. no matter what age you are you can have a boyfriend. i got my 1st boyfriend in 6th and im goin into 7th. (as you can see 8 bfs in 1 year they didnt last long!)
It's when you are ready to commit. There isn't a specific age for dating. I think it is when you can feel like you can stay with that particular person for a long time. That does not mean two weeks or a month.
Id totally depends. Think of what i call the three P's. Do you like him cause he's "pretty"? (cute) than no. Popularity? depends. if he's pop because he's smart and likeable, sure. Personality? absouloutly! go 4 it. oh, and if he's more than one of these things, that's cool 2. but bware, know what u r going into.
well....it depends.really u should talk to your mom or someone really close.if your muture enough its ok to have one.i think the proper age would be at least 15 or 16.
i think 15 is a good time to have a boyfriend
I'm 13 and I don't want one. I'd say wait until high school.
Hi!
i dont think theres a right age at all
but the thing is you have to have proper feelings for them
DONT RUSH IT!
hope it helps
i think 12
i think around 12 or 13 is a good age but it also depends on yor parents.
i think 11
if your parents say you cant have a bf but you think or know you are ready tell them dnt b scared.When ever you as yourself are ready and feel its comfortable to have a bf but be4 u go up to your crush and get all googly eyes talk to your parents about how u feel and that you are comfortable and that you wont cross the line or let him cross the line.Later in your relationship talk to your parents about goin on group dates or just private dates or maybe him staying for dinner so they can safely chaperone the "date".Have his mom call yours or the other way around.But if you want to go steady make sure this a choice you nd your beau are ok with, when you make your decision you dnt have to tell anyone if you dnt want to but dont rush date when your ready.!!!!!!!!!!!!*********!!!!!!!!!BIG TIP IF YOUR CRUSH ASKES YOU OUT AND YOUR NOT READY TO DATE OR CANT TELL HIM THE SITUATION!!!!!!!!!************!!!!!!!
around 14 to 15 years old
14 to 15 years old
Well, my mum won't let me date until 16 but any age is ok for a bo.
i think u should be in middle school. boys can be very immature and u never know what they'll do, that's why u have to be mature and know how to handle a bf.... trust me, its really tough with boys. but talk to ur parents when U think UR ready.
I'm 12 as well, and I've had 3-4 boyfriends =) I say it's ok to date unless you both really like eachother, and you take it seriously, not just dating a boy for popularity, or just because you want to know what a boyfriend is like. Anyways, if you did want to know what a boyfriend is like, then you should like the boy you try it with. Hope this helped =)
Kaiters
It really depends what you mean by boyfriend. When your little everyone's your boyfriend, you know? But you don't really know what a boyfriend is. When your like 10-14, your boyfriends aren't serious, you don't go on actual dates, but you text eachother and talk on the phone etc. I think when your 15 you start to act more serious about boyfriends, but remember boys mature at a different age. I think a boyfriend you hang out with at school is fine at like 10-14, but actually going out or having serious relationships depends on the person and the maturity.
SORRY IF I BORED YOU TO DEATH LOL!!!
I think school is the number one priority, and that if you are able to handle a boyfriend (one that likes you for the person you truly are inside!!!) it's fine to hang out with a guy. But I wouldn't suggest it to middle schoolers. Usually (trust me I've seen this happen; I was in grade 8 last year) people who are boyfriend/girlfriend tend to be very dramatic (this is middle school bf and gf) and they hook up just for the attention/popularity. I decided that I'll have a boyfriend that is smart, outgoing and fun to be with, AND! that cares about his grades. I have to maintain the 95 average in high school (as best as I can lol) in order to achieve the stuff I want and to get the scholarships that I am aiming for. I can't let an immature popular boy get in my way of reaching my dreams!!!!!!!!! :)
Just remember-
NO RUSH!!!!
lol
-hi3334
i dont think there is an age for that kind of stuff. i mean your 12 you should date if you really like this guy. this kind of stuff is serious. but never be afraid to date. i think thats cool!you should always chase anything you belive in!!!!
-rei rei
i think as long as u like them startin in 3rd grade u could
i think 12 is too young im 12 and all my friends have boyfriends i dont think i need one , boys are ok but im not in love with them but i think its ok to have asecret crush!!
I'm 11 and i have had five boyfriends and just got a new one it should be fine
Boy friends are a complicated matter.If I were you,I'd take some time to see if your ready and then make your decision. trust me. I know what Im talking about.
I vote on like ummmmmmmmmm... maybe 13? idk. im 12, and a bunch of friends have had boyfriends. my guy friends had girlfriends, but they r mostly a year older then me.
ANY AGE!!!!! LOVE IS LOVE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I HAD A BEST GUY FRIEND AND ONE DAY WE WERE SITTING TOGETHER ON THE BUS AN THE BUS WENT ON A BUMP WE WERE BOTH ABOUT TO SAY SOMETHING TO EACH OTHER AND RIGHT WEN WE TURNED AROUND WE ENDED UP KISSING ,OH BY THE WAY IM 11, AND AND WE BOTH FELT A SPARK OR SUMTHING AND WE ARE NOW GOING OUT MY PARENT HAVE MET HIM AND EVERYTHING! KEEP LOVI'N AND STAY LOVI'N!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
any age... my mum had her 1st boyfriend in grade 5, around 10 years old!!!!
I'd say when you graduate, but that's my opinion. Your school is out of the way, you might have moved out, and you need someone to support you while your'e in Uni. My dad said I can have a boyfriend when I was 52, I know he was joking, but I could tell he'd preffer that.lol.
I have never kissed a boy, never gone out, never had a boyfriend, AND I've never ever held hands with a boy. Even in Preschool I rejected being close to boys, in that sort of way. I have pretty good grades I guess. I've had crushes on my best friends, and it really is annoying. I have best friends that are all mostly boys, and they know I act more like a boy then a mushy girl. One of my friends called me a boy one day. It annoyed me but I guess it taught me that I was more playful and aggressive than boys.
I just realized some of this had nothing to do with the question hahahh.
heyy, i think you should have one in and eighth grade or above i am in 7th grade and i recommend that you do not go out with anyone just to be popular. becareful when you choose your guy, make sure he is nice sweet and respects you. also make sure he respects himself witch means he does not go to school and talks back to teachers. you never want a boyfriend to be a trouble maker.
haha i am nearing 15 n i still dont have a boyfriend but my friends had boyfriends since dey wer in 5th grade
I BELIEVE IT DEPENDS ON U AND UR HEART! DO WATS RITE OR WAT U THINK IS RITE AND SOMETHING DAT UR PARENTS WUD AGREE WIT! THATS JUST MI OPION! i'M 11 AND BOYS IN 7TH GRADE LIKE ME AND SAY AGE IS JUS A #! BUT AT TIMES I'M NOT SURE! DEN AGAIN THEY ARE MORE MATTURE!
XOXOXOX,
MOODDA(NOT MY REAL NAME FOR PRIVACY PURPOSES)!!!!!!!!!!!!
Disney Channel is giving a very bad example for lil girls! On the movie: Jump In, the little sister is eight and has a boy friend! Wow...... Soo duumb
well im 11 and i have bf but in 6th grade it feels like everyone has a bf but if u dont want one its not madatory but ure realy never too young too have one it depends on how searious u r.
im 15 and i thought i was ready for a committed relationship but when i had a boyfriend i realized i wasn't ready for commitment and we broke up. Enjoy being single now you're still young:)
it depends if you feel ready to HAVE a boyfriend or not, do you feel ready at 11, 13, 16, 18 or even 22? it all depends on the mind!
well when your young you just say your a couple but do u really like hold hands or go on dates or make out i dont think so 15 is a good age were you actually feel something
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idk im ten i want one but idk i had one win i was nine it was horrible
i m 9 last year i had a boyfriend lots of drama but it wasnt bad drama.it depends if you have time and if you really like the boy.
Im 13 teen and I have a boyfriend but I switched schools. But we still call each other and still text. And he gave me a necklace for our love. So i think 13 teen is a good age to have a boyfriend as long as it is okay with your parents.
i think 14 is the best age for a boyfriend
16 is wat my mom says....girl above me^^im 14,im deeply in love with a 17 year old.Hes my bffls bro....hes waaaay to old.so i act like i hate him!
HI!!!!!!!!
im 13 and i have won! HES AWESOME!!!!!!!!!! lol so far any ways! i think 14 is probly the right age ...... but if the guy likes u and u like him id GO FOR IT GRL!
luv yall! sassy grl1
ps. most parent say 16.......
im 10 and i think 14 and up is da best...10 is way to young,becuz ur to immature.when ur 14 u no ur self better.thats juss my opion
HI!! Nice question btw!
Well, I guess, a boyfriend is , for any girl, a BIG thing so he has to be with you at that age when you can really enjoy each other's company and be together without parents or your gut feeling screaming NOO!!
I also think you should have a bf only when you really think that HE"S THE ONE (at least for until your next bf!) So, hope I helped! Gud luk! Raashi
ive dated cince i waz 5!
I think 11 or 12 would be an ok age for a group date with a guy you like if It's supervised by a parent, for a real relationship I think about 14 and up would be a good age to start. :)
Ummmm......... not to be all good girl and everything but the appropriate age to have a boyfriend is about 15/16. Thats the best time to have a real relationship and thats when most of your emotions are under control. lol :)
it actully depends on you i know people who are 13/14 that are have a boyfriend for a week and the next week they have a new one but some people can like a guy and go out for months even years it really depends on the person
Jay is totally right. that s about the age when u should have a boyfriend.
I think 12 is a bit young, but if you date, here are tips. Don't kiss or anything that personal. Hold hands and stuff, but take it slow. Date people who you like for real, not who you think is cute. There was this kid named brian in the third grade and he was kind of cute. Once I told him he was cute he got obsessed with me and claimed we were "dating". I didn't even know him that well, and he won't stop liking me 2 years later! So date a boy who you like for real, and who you trust. Hope this helps! Choose wisely.
Theres no age!!!
Just, dont kiss if you have less than 15 years old. If your parents are OK, you can. You´re so lucky if have boyfriend. I havent got one yet!
im 11 and in middle skool and my parents wont let me date till high skool and i really want 2 date wat do i do
well it all depends if you feel comfortable and if your parents let you.hope i helped.
the question to ask are... do you really like this guy? how does he feel about you? would you feel okay if your friends teased you about having a "boyfriend?" are you allowed to go out with a boy or a group without your parents? i asked myself these questions and well the answers were no, no, no, and no. so no i am not ready to have a boyfriend
i think 14 is a good age becuz mi friend nd her bf are almost going together for a year amazing rite true love so to me 14
I think at least when your in middle school/high school so at least 11.
It really depends on what your parents think and what you think. My mom said "not until you are in high school" so I have to go along with it. I think you really don't need a boyfriend outside of school. I have an inside-of-school "boyfriend." You can talk with a guy at lunchtime or during times in class where you are doing absolutely nothing. Also, if there are any school events, ask him to go! The guy I like went to a school basketball game with me (although it wasn't a date because his dad was there) and we'll also be going to the school ice-skating party. Hope this helps!
P.S. Sorry it was so long!
I like a 4th grader but I'm a 5th grader what do I do PLS?
My dad dosen't want me to have a boyfriend until I'm 16 but my mom thinks around 14...what do I do.
Many people have "boyfriends" that are mostly just friends who do stuff together. I think your age is reasonable to have one of those, but not a serious one 'till high school.
I AM 12 AND I LIKE BOYS BUT DONT TELL FAMILY CAUSE I AM AFIRED TO TELL THEM IT MIGHT BREACK THERE HEART BECAUSE I AM THE ONLY LITTLE GIRL IN MY FAMILY FOR 62 YEARS HOW DO I TELL THEM
I was ten but he was very pushy.
well i dont know it really depends on what u mean by boyfriend. if it means just sitting together at lunch then 12 but if more serious then maybe 15
im 11 and i have a boyfriend . its not that bad to have a boyfriend at 11 but i dont think at 11 you are ready to kiss
I think you should be a teenager at like 16+. Some parents prefer older. But you don't want anyone to get you ignoring school and your studies
i think the age is any age. because you might really like or love that person.
i'm 10 ( nearly in comprehensive school-british way of saying middle school- can't wait !! )and i've had made mistakes about boys i know it sounds a bit weird but i would say 13-14 cus then you know what boys are like.
hywl fawr ( goodbye in welsh )
Hey Im 11 and I've had a boyfriend. It didnt turn out well and we broke up super fast. I think You should wait until your in eight grade, but if you want one then I think its ok. But it wont last long. When your older the relationship is much more serious so its like REALLY having a boyfriend! Good luck with your choice! :)
Girls usually like older guys because girls mature faster and want to be with someone mature.Guys usually want to be with younger girls because they are immature and want to be with someone less mature.
i think it depends on how u feel but if ur parents say u cant have a bf until ur 15 or 16 watever u do dont have a bf behind there back b cuz sooner or laater they r going to find out i hope that this is good advice
ps:if u like a guy and he asks u out u should tell ur parents b fore u say yes
In my opinion i think 18 is the best age.
I think 13 is O.K... I mean you have a boyfriend when you wana have a boyfriend or whenever your mom and dad think its good. Now alot of girls get mad when there parents say that and trust me i am one of them. BUT our parents no alot more then we do and they no what boys are capable of. Not all boys are like that but your parents want to make sure you NEVER get hurt and they really want to keep you as there little girl. i know we dont think its fair but who knows BEST.? PARENTS :))
I THINK THAT 12 IS OK AS LONG AS IT DOSEN'T GET TO SERIOUS (EX MAKEING OUT ) I HAD A BOYFRIEND (STRICTLY SCHOOL) IN GRADE ONE
Ask your parent or go to a religoius friens like a pastor or a priest. Also think about if you really like the they guy and he nices or if it just because of peer presure. I think from 12 to 16 you can hang out with a boy at free period and in between classes and call him your "boyfriend" but when your about 16 or 17 you can have a real realtionship.
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