Don't hog my BFF!
Nichole has a good question. I know I've felt this way from time to time. My best friend, Kate, is so nice and popular and nice. Did I mention how nice she is? Well, she's friends with loads of people. I know she's my bestie, but sometimes I feel like other people take too much of her time. Nichole has a similar question...Dear PLS,
I have this best friend and all the other girls hog her. how do i get her to like me the best?
nichole
ps. go pls u girls r great! i luv pls!
I have this best friend and all the other girls hog her. how do i get her to like me the best?
nichole
ps. go pls u girls r great! i luv pls!
Can you get someone to like you best and spend the most time with you? Or is it better to hunt around for a different BFF, someone who wants to have just one best friend? I also wonder if you spend too much time competing for someone's attention, if that makes you annoying. Maybe better to enjoy the time you do have with that special friend and the best-best-estest thing will happen naturally?
Think pink!
Jemma
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i think u should tell the friend how u feel. tell her that u feel left out. hope it helped!!!!
as long as you don't show that you want her to like you the most, then everything should be fine. just act happy, and cheerful, no matter what, because people are attracted to happy and cheerful people. just be yourself!
keep smiling!
You should talk to your BFF and tell her that you want to spend more time with her. Then, nobody'll get mad AND you can spend more time with your BFF! I hope I helped.
Try to find new friends. Join a club about things you like. Maybe reading or sports. You will find friends and be able 2 have fun. Don't forget your friends tho. Just share them!
Yes i agree just talk to her and tell her that you want to spend some time with ONLY her. And find some friends on the side...like Isabella said.stay friends with your BFF and when she wants to hang out and also find some friends that have some more free time for you! Get involved in activities you like and you are sure to find friends there because you share a same intrest! hope i helped!
All you really need to do is talk to your Bestie and tell her what your feeling and if she is a true friend she will understand and i think she will hope this helps:)
Live-Laugh-Love<3
I know how u feel because I havve a best friend and it feels like we are splitig apart because she has so many friends and she never hangs with me anymore as much:(
Hey Nicole,
i don't know how you fell,but I do know how a person feels if your getting hogged it's a horrible feeling that makes you feel bad,well what happened is 1 of my friends came up and told me that she felt left out by me and i promised her i would fix it,so i did,and TADA we are the best of friends.Hope you make the best decision.
Sincerely,
Suzette
Dear Nicole,
You should tell her and try to explain how you feel.
P.Sthis happened to me.
Hey Nicole... I know how it feels to be Out-of-place with your most BELOVED bestie.. It happened to me almost like.. 1,000,000x already.. My advice is... Try asking her like, if you would like to choose someone you could be in a lifetime trip in other places, who would it be? These are the choices.. a.(you) b.(her friend) c.(crush).. If she chooses you, ask her why.. If she chooses b., ask her if she means it... And if she chooses c., tell her that she is obsessed with her crush and has to control that stupid obsession.. Knowing the answer through this will surely clear your mind about this horrifying issues.. God Bless you! ( and p.s., i tried this strategy for 999,999x already and it all worked out!! ^^)
Yours truly,
C.A.B.
hey could you guys help me. i have these friends, and they are all clingy and all that and they create the biggest dramas about the stupidest things, and won't let me be friends with this other group and i am so sick of it! they think that i am "their property!"
also i haven't heard from my boyfriend since last year :( what do i do!!??! i've been past his house but only his brother is ever home
please help :(
hey i been there before an it kinda makes u jealous sometimes but when i had tht problem i just try to hang out with her as much as i can so then if tht other gurl comes i would already had the time with her
Ive been there recently my best friend started liking my enemy(the enemy was also hers!) even though my enemy was using her and she couldn't realize it i tried telling her but she wouldn't listen then she realized and she is my bestie pally again and i love her :)
Hey Friends,
I think that if you want someone to like you the best you have to just be yourself if they dont like you its there lost. Find someone who like you for you and no one else!!
-Megan
i say u take charge of the realationship
and make sure u'll spend some time 2gether after all u'll are bff.
here is advice from a friendship trouble book i have. If you feel left out from your friends, take a time to get together and talk. tell her how you feel. It will all work out in the end.
Hi Nichole, This has happened to me countless times before!! One of my friends was hanging around with the girl that I thought was my best friend.., whenever I tried to talk to my best friend, the other girl would always say or do something else that would make my bestie forget what we were talking about. Believe me I know how it feels!! So just tell your best friend how you feel...if she dosen't understand than she's a waste of your time!!!
Coco199609
well, just try to spend more time with her if not well then i think you need tell her how you fell
i hope it gose okay
Hey Nicole, I know how you feel. I've been through this numbers of times. What you should do is talk to your friend. Tell her that maybe you feel left out. She will probably understand. If she doesn't, and continues to hang out with someone else, maybe shes not that good of a friend. Good luck. I wish you the best!
i am always stuck in the middle of my friends wanting to spend more time with me and yelling at each other that she gets to hangout with me more. Just fight it and if they keep doing it just do what i did. tell them that if they dont stop fighting i wont spend time with either of you.
hope you use my tip!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
i love the pls!!!!!!!!!!!!
your BFF won't leave you very easily, don't act as if you are feeling left out, try to act normal, as it is normal for everyone to also hang out with people who are not their BFFs.....learn to accept this fact and don't get over-obssessed about being with your BFF, there are other people too with whom you can hang out, but at the same time you should remember to not to forget your BFF compeletely.
Hope this helps.....
my friend is so nice we love 2 hang out but this girl trys 2 say that her and my friend never hang out. My friend gets really annoyed cause shes trapped in the middle but the girl always hangs out with her and she sat on me cause i sat next 2 my friend ahhh she gets on my nirves
what should i do?????????????
well y dont u call ur boyfriend but tell ur friends that ur not there property and if they dont stop u wont be there friend as easy as that
hope that helped
hey nicole this has happened 2 me twice and both times i found a new BFF
i had these 2 best friends we were insepreable until this other girl came into our class and totally toke them away from me and i never hand out with them anymore.xx
try to get hr back.talk to her and tell her funny jokes.
if she is really ur best friend then i think she should give you d 1st priority.i know its difficult to talk to her about it but u can definitely show some signs of being left out n having to share ur bffl best frend for life
best of luck
I know how that feels alot of times i don't even get to play with my friends cause of that one girl :(
i have this same problem.... cept we fight alot cuz she gets mad when i walk away cuz im bord....... but she COMPLETY IGNORES ME! so i cant help it! latly i have been avoiding them..... she gets mad cuz she thinks im acting like im TO Good for them. when she the won hanging with the cool peeps and not talking to when they are around cuz im not cool enuf! if she was rele my BFFL she wouldnt do tht. just find new friends.... thts what i did. i still talk to her some times. rarely.
I am going through the same thing as Nichole with MY BFF too. I mean, i can C why all the other girls like her so much but, well idont know she is so perfect. Not as a person, but as a BFF. i dont know what id do without her. i guess maybe i am a bit jealous. ANY ADVICE PLS GIRLS???????
anonymous (K)
I totaly have the same problem and i wish she still was always at my side! i know eventuly i will have a good amount of time with her.
ps: i love my bestie j.r.j.
i have the same problem but i don't know what to do! sometimes it's like i am completely invisible towards my bestie when she is with her other friends! i know it is a difficult process to get people to like you, but i really want my bestie back!
what do i do :( :(
Dont try to impress her, just try to talk with her about this, maybe she is ok.
Hope it helps!!!!
i have the same problem what do u ddddddooooooooo!!!!!!!!!!!
dont worry i am sure that my problem is bigger than yours
I know how you feel. I had this bffl. We totally got each other. felt like nothing could come between. then one day a fight sprang up between all my friends ( i was one of the few who didn't take sides) she got pretty mad at me. The friends on her side start hogging her. I felt awkward just being there. i left them alone after a while. I STILL MISS THEM AWFULLY! My former bffl and i still talk some times but not a lot. i found it easier to move on. some times there better ppl out there.
Are you sure your other friends are hogging her? Or are you just a real control freak? and any lil second she spend with any one else make you feel less loved? ( not trying to be rude its just an idea)
Just talk it out...Sometimes words help.Sometimes they hurt.
My BFF (best freind forever) is drifting away form me,ever since the new girl appered.
Now she knows all our BFF's games, I think they even made a new one. I want my BFF to be my BFF I know I sound selfish but we've been best buds since class 1!!! I want to be nice to the new girl but also talking her to back of my BFF.
I have an idea for you. It actually happened to me before.One of my BFFs had another one of my BFs hog her. The best way is to hang out with people that are friends with the person who is hogging your friend, but is a person you dont really hang out with much. it actually worked for me so try it!
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