Talking to Mom/Mum about your period
Hey there. I went to summer camp and when I came back - whoosh! - I was overwhelmed with your questions. Keep them coming and be sure to remind me if you have asked more than once. That's what R.H. did and I'm glad. I put those on the top of the list.So without further delay, R.H. wants to know how to talk to your mom about IT, also known as your period. Here's her question. Notice that she calls mom "mum." She must be writing from the U.K. Awesome!
Hi Pls,
Good book.But i have started my period and am not sure how to talk openly with my mum about periods? Please Help!
Good book.But i have started my period and am not sure how to talk openly with my mum about periods? Please Help!
R.H., 14
As everyone knows if you read the book, I do not have my period yet. But I have talked to my mom about other possibly embarrassing stuff, so here's my advice...
1. Find a good time to talk, like when it's just the two of you in the car.
2. Be honest and to the point, like "Hey mom, I got my period and I have questions. Can I ask you?"
3. Branch out, if you want, and also talk to older sisters, older friends, cousins etc.
What else am I missing, pink locker girls? What's your advice for R.H.?
Think pink!
Jemma
posted by Jemma at
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Don't do it at a time that she will get mad or she is distracted. Maybe do it just the two of you at dinner. Think pink!
-Jemma
i aggree with jem. dont do it when shell get destracted. but know how 2 start. "hey,um mum? iz it ok if i talk 2 u about female stuff?" shell probably say "wat kind ov stuff?" say it straight. "periods." if she says its not a good time, say ok.
I think you come out slowley me and my mom aren't that close so it took some time but it really helped because my best friend helped me talk to her and what to say.
ok i talked my mom about it in the car. she's like seriosly? ya i said.she took it well but you have to take chances. she had some protectionin the bathroom so i used it. anyways, just say it,BE STRONG! and think pink!-Yvette
I was at the mall with my mom and dad when it happened! How embarassing!!!! I said that the last trip to the bathroom was interesting and she said why. I told her and she got all happy. So girls..... don't be embarrassed! If anything your Mom will be overjoyed!
-Rachel
it is not very embarassing because it is just life
Try to do something alone with your Mom and ask her then!
Thnks for all your advice.I have told her and she is fine with it all.R.H
talk to nher when u r alone. ask if u guys can go out to dinner or something.thats what i did when i wanted to talk about puperty with my mom.
Your mum really wants to talk to you and help with any questions. When I taled to my mum about periods, she was really honest and answered almost all my questions.
I think you should do it when yall our out away from home or in the car because at home she might think my little girl is growing up or in the car you might say it before you get somewhere you will be embrassed afterward so if yoou say it while yalll are at a store so yall can go ahead and buy them see my mom would not belive me she always say you are still a little girl and stuff like that
I think you should maybe ask your mum when it's just the two of you privately. You could say something like " Mum I need to talk to you about something private." Your mum would probably say sure what's wrong or it's not a good time. If it isn't bring it up again later. Hope this helps!
I just got my period 15 minutes ago I'm so upset my kid days are over.
well all i could say is she is ur mom and she went threw it already so shes the best one 2 talk 2 when i got mine i told my mom and she was real cool 2 talk 2 adout it so tell her as soon as she could talk.
its ok i talked to my mum about it. and she undersode the whole thing!!!!!!!!!!
What I did was:
Step 1: Plan what you want to ask, then practice saying it.
Step 2: Pick a GOOD time for both of you. When your mom is on the phone is not a good time for her even if thats when you have a burst of courage.
Step 3: Let your mom know what advice you need. If you say ' mom I'm scared of getting my period.' Thats not as good as 'mom I'm scared of getting my period because [blank] can you give me some advice?' If the advice she is giving you is not want you meant, say 'mom thats not what I mean really it's more like [blank]. sorry'
Step 4: End with a big hug and thank her for the advice and ask her to keep it between you and her and can you make up a code word for when you have more questions.
I hate this.Help!!!-kiko
me and me mom ready had "the talk" now just waiting for the other talk
if your also to talk openly,write a note and put it in her dresser or somewhere she looks everyday that someone else doesn't.When she reads the note your mom can right a note back.That way you never have to talk directly to her
If you want to make it really the right time to tell your mom, make sure you too are all alone, like, maybe when you too are in a car ride or in a room together. And also remember, it's always okay to talk to your mom because she went through it herself!
Hi! I know I have the sorta same problem too. I didn't get my period yet but I want it REALLY BAD because most of my friends have it! My mom and I have talked about all that stuff openly and honestly I'm comfortable with that I just don't know how to tell her that I just want to have pads/pantiliners in the house. School is starting very soon and I would like to have them to wear everyday just incase I get caught off guard. Please Help with that and also tell me how when I do get my period I can tell my mom.
Thanks Alot,
Scared to Ask Mom
I agree with Scared to Ask Mom. I actually have the same problem, but my mom already knows I want them. I just want to know when I'll get "IT". But I have some advice for girls: Don't be afraid to ask Mom. I am not lying, as she was once in your position,
and she's been through it too. Think pink!
-Simone
I am going to school soon too and I like to be prepared for ANYTHING (hint hint). I would advise talking to your mom when she is doing something like the dishes or folding laundry. If you're scared, I cannot stress it enough: TALK TO YOUR MOM!!! I do when I get curious about anything. I really hope this helps you. Think pink! :D -Simone
Thanks Alot! That really helped me. I'm still a little scared but not as bad as it was. I think I'm gonna ask my mom when we are out shopping in two days. If anyone has anymore advice or problems please ask me I would be happy to help!
Thanks Again,
Not So Scared to Ask Mom Anymore (Now you can just call me SmartGirl14)!!!
hey i was just like her i want to tell my mom about my period but i dont feel right talking about it.But i told her and she was ok.
I am scared ,too!
stop being such a chicken and just tell her
she wont mind!
heres what to do if you have started and dont know how to tell her...
burst into tears and when she asks you whats wrong then say mum i have something to tell you
then tell her and shell feel sorry for you because you have been crying
You c whats wrong with this advice...SOME GIRLS JUST CANT. I'm not comfortable talking to my mum about that sorta thing {so sad} so what ELSE can I do...AARRGG
i think you should start talking about it if she brings it up. or if you don't wont to wait that long so ask here something like this mum im just wondering when did you get your period like how old were you, try to say that at a time when only you and your mum are together.
just get it over with and say it or wait for the right time say in the car when its just the two of you.First you should practice saying it to yourself and be comfortable with that cause if you cant say it alound to yourself you cant tell anyone else.So get comfortable with the subject before you talk to your mom about it.Take a deap breath everything will be ok.
Well I talked to my mom and I haven't gotten my "" yet so what I do is when I'm on a ski lift or in the car, or just walking down a street with my mom I say something like- do you always get cramps or do periods hurt.
But if you got your period I'd just say, I got my period today.
My mom said that if I get it at school I can just tell her when I get home or something. You could also talk to your teacher or friend...
Whenever my mom is around my dad and brother are too, so it's kind of hard to talk to her alone! If you're like me and you need to talk to your mom about "girl stuff" you should write her a letter with all your Q's on it and leave her a space to write the answers! I did this once and it turned out perfect!
i know how you feel and it is hard thanks for the advise i will try it
thanks so much!! i did the letter thing and it worked!!
xx
my mom did all the talking way ahead of time and wouldn't stop talking, I didn't even ask for any information!
me and my mom are super tight but i still get nerves when i ask my mom about aunt flo but after i say it i feel alot better
She is in your family and she knows that every girl eventually get it. Its not like she will tell the whole school or start getting like "My little sweetums is getting her first period!!!" She will take it seriously.
All of our moms have their periods, so if you are WAY TOO SCARED TO TALK TO YOUR MOM, then look under her sink for a pad and keep it in your locker, just so you can relax. If you have questions about "it" but ared scared to talk with your mom, don't forget about those older sisters, aunts, friends, cousins that are out there who know exactly what you are dealing with!
me too i also havent got my 1st period till yet same pinch!
I think you should just be like um mom there are some things happening like changes and i am sure she will understand cause i bet the same thing happened to her hope this helped
If You Just Started Your Period Then First If Your Scared To Tell Your Mum Then Go To an Older Cousin Or Sister Like Jem Said . See If You Can Borrow Pads Or Tampons For a Couple of Days . Then Wen You Feel Like You Should Tell Her Have an Private Conversation Because Remember She Experienced Her First Period Too !
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