Tummy Trouble
Today's question is a good reminder that we all can become a little body obsessed. Do you ever look at your body, compare it to other girls or even to women in magazines and on TV? "Not Feeling Sexy" said she's worried that her tummy is not flat.Dear PLS,
I really really REALLY need your help. Wherever i look all these girls have these sexy flat tummys and figures but i look like Ive eaten a ball.It makes me really embarrassed and Ive tried to lose my BIG tummy but it doesn't seem to work.I really need help and ive asked the PLS before but i dont know where to go for my answer.
PLEASE HELP
from not feeling sexy, 13
First, I'd say there's no requirement that you feel sexy. What does feeling sexy mean, anyway? And I'd admit that there are times when I see myself in a photo or in the mirror and I don't like everything I see. It's hard not to compare yourself to others. Have you seen my friend, Piper?!
But here's what I'm working on - a good resolution for all of us in 2010. I'm going to try not to say negative things about myself, even in my own head. So when I'm tempted to think that I'm too short or my boobs are too small, I'll find something better to focus on. For instance, "I look great in my new green sweater" or "I ran a mile today without stopping."
Also remember that it's OK to be a REAL GIRL who looks normal and not like an airbrushed magazine cover. The truth is that people in magazines are often very beautiful but sometimes get extra help from technology. With computer software, they can erase a pimple or make someone's hips look smaller. So even already attractive people end up looking unbelievably perfect in photos. I like this YouTube video because it shows how lots of girls think about this stuff and what REAL BEAUTY is.
Now it's time to hear from you! What do you say Pink Locker Girls? What advice do you have for someone who doesn't like a part of her body.
Think pink!
Jemma
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Well, myself be a bigger girl would have to say that if you keep comparing yourself to other "skinnier" girls or as we call them in my school "toothpicks" you will always see your self as larger than you are. And if in the future you do lose you tummy, you will always see your self as you once were. So try to accept youself as you are becasue god desiged you perfectly to teh way he wanted you and he thinks thst your beautiful, pretty and 'sexy'. And his opinion is tghe one that counts most.
Your beautiful the way you are everyone is unique.DON'T and I mean do not copare yourself to other girls.
aww don't worry! you are an unique individual and don't worry about these skinny girls because they definately won't be skinny forever! i bet you are gorgeous in your own ways and i have the same problem as you and i just try and be confident in my own skin and people learnt to respect that
good luck! xx
These girls with the flat "sexy" tummies - they won't be skinny forever! And I know that the old saying is "It only matters whats on the inside" but I know us girls think very differently from that - it DOES matter what we look like, and that's good! But instead of classifying yourself as the "one with the non-sexy stomach", pay more attention to the things about yourself that you love (for example; your hair, eyes, skin complexion, etc.)!
if you're insecure about your stomach try doing ab crunches or something! you don't have to show off your stomach, wear one piece swimsuits, flowy tops and other things to conceal it if you wish. but i don't think you should focus on the bad, focus on the beautiful girl i'm sure you are! sure i don't like my figure or complexion, but i gotta admit, my hair is gorgous and my smile is better! so maybe your new years resoulution should be to focus on the good things! - veronica t. 11
No matter what you look like and even if you don`t feel sexy you are many others in magazines aren`t as perfect as they appear! so just eat right and excercise but either way your probs gorgous!
hey, i have the same problem, so dont worry!! u r NEVER alone!!
Think pink!! Aged 12
hey, i have kinda the same problem, but the exact opposite (if that makes sense). I am 2 skinny. i have just learned to be myself and enjoy the life ive got. and everyone should too.
ANONYMOUS (K)
Be who u r,not who u have to be
u r beaTuful in ur own way! :)
your beautiful in your own way. Comparing your self to some one your not is DUMB! Its like comparing a monarch butterfly to a zebra striped one. There both Beautiful butterflies, but a different kind. Their beautiful in there own special way. Remember theres only ONE beautiful you.
I agree with girl above me ^^ There is only won beautiful u.SO take a chance!! Dare to be different girl!!!! Dont be like those Horribly thing Models Or girls.Just be u and no won else!
I gained a lot from Eating candy. I can totally tell im fat. I keep eating it anyways.I need help!
WHAT IS THE MATTER WITH PEOPLE THESE DAYS?! STOP LOOKING AT THE SEXY GIRLS AND START LOOKING AT ALL THE GOOD STUFF ABOUT U.IT DONT MATTER IF UR SUPER THIN!!! I THINK ITS STUPID WHEN PEOPLE ARE REALLY THIN. SO JUST LOOK AT UR SELF WITH UR HEAD HELD HIGH LADY!!
ps.sorry didnt mean to yell.
It doesn't matter if your not "sexy". Those people on magazines aren't as beautiful as they look. They have people were that work with computers to make things like pimples go away. A lot of times they take the pictures at an angle where the look skinier than they really are. I'm not skinny either but if you take my picture at a cetain angle then I look very skinny. Now I'm not like 110 lbs but I do wheigh 80 lbs and I'm not sknny or fat. I dought your fat but you may not be skinny. Most kids aren't skinny. While your in puberty you tend to gain weight and look rounder but then you can get read of it once puerty is done for you. For all we know you could look as sknny as those people on magizines.
Feeling sexy means being ur self
Hey girl,
I used to have the feeling myself! You don't have to be the hottest girl in school, most of the time too, the girls you feel inferior to feel the same way, or they could have eating disorders too. You don't have to look good either, it depends on your actions toward others. LayMarie makes an excellent point too, make yourself some goals. I hope this could help you! Enjoy every good time or day you have.
-Suzette
DON'T COPARE YOURSELF TO OTHER GIRLS!!!!!!! I have a few reasons listed.
1)If you do, you might become bulemic or something because you think your fat or not thin enough. Whatever you do, DON'T GO DOWN THAT ROAD.....
2) each and every one of us is uniqe in our own way. Remember (even if you aren't a Chritchian) that god created each and every one of us with his own hands. He wants us to accept who we are.
If you are allowed on youtube (or iTunes) Ihave a few songs you can search. This band is christian based, but they are great songs, especially if you are going through tough times in your life. Barlowgirl sings these songs: Mirror, Let go, I need you to love me, 5 minuets of fame, Never Alone, No one like you, Average girl, Grey, and More than enough. I have them all on my iPod, and listen to them often. Hope you enjoy them!!! :)
hey i am one of those girls that has a hard time dealing with her weight. my weight is 135.5 pounds and i am only 12 years old! But one thing that i learned that i will NEVER forget is you are unique and one day the weight will come off because your body is changing and growing in many different areas. So if you are like me just remember that you are unique and if you are selfconseous around guys and feel like they will never like you or thing your cute, just remeber that guys are weird :) and may not show how they really feel. Plus these guys are just crushes one day yuo will find the one you were ment to be with! :)
I'm wasn't happy with the way I looked for a long time, I starved myself and had to put in the hospital, so don't be like me eat right and stay active everything will turn out fine!
THAT'S SUCH A GOOD ADVICE JEMMA!
I myself am a girl with a not so cute belly! but your biggest judge is you! I have had lots of people who openly teel people if they are pretty or not tell me i was skinny! you just have to love yourself and one say you will find a guy who loves you for you, not your body!
Hey girls out there stop worrying stop sucking in your belly.you ya I am talking to you you are beautiful.If a guy or a girl or you're BFFL(best friend for life)calls you ugly,fat or even chubby.they don't deserve you.You are better than them.So stop being someone else stop people like yo for you not for beauty now go out and have F-U-N FUN!!!!!!!!!!!
i have a HUGE butt and thats the only thing boys like about but i go to addmit that my stomach is not the best!
well i dont have a flat tummy,i have some stretch marks too.I do compare myself and sometimes it really hurts.some boys say i have a nice chest and butt,but that doesnt boost my confidence about
I am overweight too but I don't let it bother me so she shouldn't let it bother her even if someone says something about it.
From Maricia120
Just like yourself for who you are and just try to ignore what other people say.
You are beutiful in every way even if you dont think you are. I am someone who also has a weight problem and that is what everyone tells me.
i realy dont feel beatiful when i compare my body to a models body. i feel completely uncomfortable when im at the beach with my swimsuit. most of my friends have a great body and i feel like an outsider.
dont worry im going threw the same thing so dont feel alone it will just make you feel bad ive been threw it before.If you are having trouble with making friends because of it just do what i did and find someone who liked you for you or make friends with someone going threw the same thing
well i have the same problem and i just dont think about it and i keep on rock n but some time i feel "chubby" but i say to my self dotn let it bother you so its ok just chill.
the girls you see are air brushed the have makeup and hair coloring just think if they didnt they would look bad and you look better.so show your true inner and outer prettiness
hey i am in the 5th grade an i feel that i am really big i am really strong and there is one girl that is bigger than me but i want to loose weight my mom said i cant go on diet so i work out try to eat healthy but i dont know i feel diffrent and i try to hide my my tummy by wearing a jacket but my mom found out and i dont know what to do now. do you have any advice at all please let me know i want to be like my friends
i feel just the same as you. but i focus on my good things you also could i try not to worry about my tummy out and about but what helps is playing out with friends maybe just walking around you will lose some weight just like me!! xx
just because u dont feel sexy, doesnt mean u r not sexy.just feel confident in urself n everyone is unique in their own separate ways. dont forget:BELIEVE IN URSELF N BE CONFIDENT.
BE WHO YOU ARE!!!! Those girls on magazine covers may look good but it's probably just computer magic that makes the look 'perfect'. if you want to feel & look sexy just be yourself!!!
RoCkEtS,
Livi
Just try to be yourself! :)
I think that everyone is beautiful in there own way.Girls in magizines arnt really pretty computers make all the little changes.Some girls in magizenes are as pretty as they look but they have a diffrent lifestyle you pretty for who you are dont think diffrent.
just exersice don't eat that much food i'm under waite for my age i'm 84 though i have to be 90 for my age thats why you exercise you will get in shape dont worry =(
hey girl im also big and i have friends that are like "sticks" what i would do is try not to eat to much.somethings when im at school i see girls wearing this short shorts and tank tops and i see how skinny they r and feel bad that im so fat but then i remind my self that i dont have to be skinny to be popular or be pretty. i can use my actions and if you have a pretty face or have curves or have pretty eyes you should show it off!!! and when u feel fat to remember that there r other girls that feel fat to and that ur not the only one
hey iam layla yea i no how u fell cuz iam over wieght by 19 pouns i am in 5th grade an wieght 119 so dnt worry iam with u
i also think that i am fat but my friends say that it doesnt matter if ur fat or not b cuz i have other personalities that r beautiful like my eys and smile sometimes i try not to eat to much and do excercise wen i can but remeber be urself and forget about the negative
I know that almost everyone posting these comments has said it but you aren't alone because like almost everyone else here I have the same problem. At the moment I'm once again trying to lose weight and for maybe about the 5th time and finally probably for the first time I am doing it successfully. But I have also realised over my many years of being overweight that I really like my eyes and so do other people, I really like my hair and so do other people, I am a nice person and other people think so to and I also have discovered that although i don't exactly like sharing my size with everyone I like going shopping with my friends because I know that when I go out wearing something that we bought together that they think I look nice and i think i look nice and i get a big confidence bost!
I'm not fat but i have HUGE hips! now tell me that isn't embarrassing! I have had a weight problem before and trust me i hated it. Who doesn't?! But you always have to learn to love yourself. If someone doesn't like you for you they are jerks and you don't need them in your life. Nobody is perfect. Those skinny girls you see on t.v are as beautiful as you are. YOU SHOULD NEVER COMPARE YOURSELF! Size is nothing but a number. You have to show others that u ARE beautiful and nobody will ever take that from you if you don't let them.:) its hard but believe in yourself and stay strong!
i have a different problem im in fifth grade, five and a half feet, and weigh around 70 pounds. A lot of my friends are relly jealous of me but they call me anarexic which is areally big world for way to skinny for your body. My doctor told me i need to eat more to. So it isnt always a good thing to be skinny!
i need sone tips on how to lose weight!!
To lose weight all you have to do is keep a well balanced diet. That means instead of eating a half a bag of cookies ONLY EAT A FEW! You will not only feel better about yourself you will also be noticed in a good way by other people. Hope I could help. :]
It okay to be a few pounds over weight. Depend on your ethnic group you might be slightly heavier or lighter than the standard. Simply find a fun sport or hobby to get you moving and yotry to slowly eat less. Plus if you taller than most girl your age and about the height of a small woman you be as heavy as a small woman. YOUR YOU AND THAT ENOUGH TO BE BEATUFUL. DON'T COMPQRE YOURSELF!!!!!!!!!!
you know what you are who you are and you know what? you don't need to have a "sexy"stomach to feel good.don't try anything dumb that can harm your body either. you are unique and you should be proud. ignore your stomach when it comes to looks. not to hunger though!!lolz:)
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