The race to be popular
Hello! Today's question has to do with something we've all thought about - being popular. In my experience, most people don't think they're popular enough. Here's Lola's question:
Dear PLS,
I'm not exactly the most popular girl in the class, because almost everyone in my class has a boyfriend!
How can I be more popular?
Lola
Lola, I think the answer to this question depends on what your definition of popular is. Is it having a boyfriend? Is it having a lot of BFFs? Is it making certain sports teams or being a leader in other groups, such as student council? I think it would be great if being popular meant that a lot of people liked you because you were someone that was fun, friendly, and easy to hang out with. (But I know that's not always how it works out.)
What do you guys think? Can you do something to make yourself more popular? Should you?
Think pink!
Jemma
Dear PLS,
I'm not exactly the most popular girl in the class, because almost everyone in my class has a boyfriend!
How can I be more popular?
Lola
Lola, I think the answer to this question depends on what your definition of popular is. Is it having a boyfriend? Is it having a lot of BFFs? Is it making certain sports teams or being a leader in other groups, such as student council? I think it would be great if being popular meant that a lot of people liked you because you were someone that was fun, friendly, and easy to hang out with. (But I know that's not always how it works out.)
What do you guys think? Can you do something to make yourself more popular? Should you?
Think pink!
Jemma
posted by Jemma at
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Hi Lola! I think you should just be yourself and people will really appreciate it. One day,in the far future, when you're working & out of school,maybe one of your school peers would be reminded of you because of something nice that you did. I don't know what it is that makes people in your school popular, but you should go for something that you're comfortable in doing.
Hope this helps! :D
well, in my opinion you should just be yourself and not worry about being popular! that's not what life's all about. we are on this earth for such a short time that we should enjoy our lives and not let them pass us by. worry about making yourself better on the inside and when you put yourself first and take pride in yourself, then you'll be more popular. but there are worse problems than not being popular. think about the poor people in Haiti and in Chile. think about all the starving children out there. so, just be yourself and be happy with your life!
- veronica t. 12
Hi Lola! Don't try and be popular. Being a kind, caring, helpful and cheerful person is so much more important.
Hello,
Just as Irene, Veronica and Josie said, you should be yourself and not worry about what other people think. After all, nerds are the ones who rule the world!!! :)
-hi3334
Yay! It's my birthday today! Oh yeah! 15!!!!
Popular is one of those "eye of the beholder" things.
Personally I say you have achieved popular when you have friends you love, people in your grade enjoy your company(it does not have to be everyone), and you are happy in your own skin.
Remember, making yourself happy with what you're doing and caring for others is the most important thing.
Stay Pink!
Green Girl
Hi Lola! I think you should be yourself and don't worry too much about being popular. Just because other people have boyfriends, it doesn't mean you have to have one too. Just be who you are and people will like you for that. Be happy for who you are. And if one day you become the kind of popular person you want to be then that's great! But just be yourself, friendly, and have fun because that's the true meaning of being popular.
Being popular isnt important at all. Just be who you are, and if you do become popular it should be because you were doing something that benefited everyone in the right way.
~Alarie
Well, coming from someone as old as me, (17 by the way) it doesn't matter if you're popular or not. I'm 17 and I STILL don't have a boyfriend. Can you believe that? :D who cares about those popular people? Just hang with your usual group and show others how much FUN you guys are having without BEING popular. :)
~Cheerios!
Dear Lola,
Being popular isn't important at all in the first place, it can be burdening to be too popular if you are a responsible person. I was one since I was a the top of my class but I wasn't a book nerd who never pop out of books. I was always with my friends doing all the fun stuff which automatically made me popular. People always looked up to me and followed the things that I do and it's quite hard to give all of them a good example. Humans do make mistakes but if you're a really popular kid, your one mistake might be worse than a hundred of others!
By the way, did I mention that I've never ever had a boyfriend and most of the other girls think it's cool not to have a boyfriend because I don't have one? You see, everything I do counts... I really had a hard time trying to keep up with my good name.
But if you really want to be popular, you do not need a boyfriend... just be friendly and let yourself out but believe me you don't want to be who I was...
*I used past tense since I am currently homeschooling. My mother pulled me out last Dec coz we moved to California and mum thinks that the schools there aren't right for me... Btw, I'm 17.
Lola,
I am also one of the only girls in my grade to not have a boyfriend. I know from personal expeirence that it shouldn't matter who you hang out with, it just matters who you really are.
I L-O-V-E all the comments to Lola's question. You guys are great!
Lola, you don't need a boyfriend to be popular.... just be yourself! Just be nice and friendly, and trust me, that will get you some where! Because kindness counts! I have proof also! There's this one boy that I like and he's really nice and friendly and everyone loves him! Now I think it's going a little bit too far because there are other girls after him! :( But my point is, he doesn't have a girlfriend(I hope) but he's still nice to everyone and he is popular. And it's not always about being popular, it's also about being yourself!
Hope this helps,
E'Niyah, 12
Just be yourself Lola. If that doesn't work, ask a friend to help you, or try out new hairstyles, or outfits if yoyu wear the same thing everyday. I know you can do it!
Be yourself and if your friends want you to be popular tell them to accept you as you are.
Hahahaha Jazmin is my best friend and we both absolutely love this site! And she copied my smiley face after my name!!! LOL
lola,
just be urself!!! just hang out wid the friends who dont care if ur popular or not, but care about ur great personality. ok, im a "smarticle" girl n at first evryone thought i was a nerdy girl, but evryone in my class (all boys n girls) r my friends. once evryone gets to know u better n know ur a great friend n maybe even a great socializer, they will be ur friend n they wont care about ur being popular.they will only care about ur personality. good luck n hang in their girl!! hope evryone will be ur friend!!
there is no accurate description of being popular. it may seem like the most important thing but trust me its not. if you have many good friends and people who like you because you are yourself, you are popular.
what is popularity? n how do u become 'popular'?
just asking questions :)
thx!
-anonymous
As long as you have great friends, them you ARE popular! I feel left out sometimes too! ( I have spina bifida )
I agree with Rachel. And I believe that popular girls should be:
Kind
Smart
Funny
But that's just me.
Kaitlyn
Trying to make urself more popular usually will just make u mean. It may get u special treatment but maybe u should just aim to be the nicest girl in ur class.Hope this helps.
Hey furget about it your fine !
just be yourself and people will like you for who you are and if you don't have a boy friend who cares if they don't like you for not having a boyfriend it's there loss because they don't like you for who you are and that's who they should really like you for. I really hope this helps I'm 10 1/2
hey, I say ignore them. You don't go to school to be popular, but to learn. But don't worry. Eventually someone in you life will love you and you will love them at the same time. Trust me, in 6th grade i should know!!!!
All i have to say is that being popular isnt everything.
Just ignore all those people. Just be yourself and people will appreciate you for who you are.
hey Lola,
i know how it feels when u r pressured and want to be more popular but really its not as cool as it looks.. i have a friend thats basically the most popular girl in school but she gets followed around every second of the day and shes really not enjoying it so just be urself.. its the best u can be!!
Heya Lola!
Just hang in there. Life isn't about being popular, it's about letting your inner beauty shine through. Take it from the popular girl at her school's experience. Being popular isn't fun if you're like me. Everyone knows you, and you lose that mysterious quality about you. Plus, being popular means you have to set the example, so the principal will peg you out of the group of kids who are breaking the same rule.
No matter what you do, just be you! You were made the way you are, so don't worry about it! :)
Dear PLS,
When I got my first period i didnt know what was going on!! It was really scary cause my mom never told me anything about puberty til she noticed the blood on my underwear in the wash! She basically just told me "it's a sexual thing" Gee, thanks mom... She doesnt even know i know what tampons are and ,God, I need one! Only reason i know stuff is caouse o' this brilliant website!! I NEED to talk to my mom about puberty I just NEED to!!!! What should I do??!!!
Thanks! :)
Abby,12
in my grade (6th) popular is having lots of friends and a possy. but the popular girl ,calista, has a lot of friends , a boyfriend, and sometimes she has an additude but really fun! i am actually part of her possy as much as i dont want to say it but i think here aer some tips if thats what popular is in your school:
funny
smart
sporty but hot
kewl accecories
and just try to act like you arent trying to be popular... like its just happening. (when i was mad at her a few friends became my popssy and btw hoop earings , smooth har, and a nice hair flip every-so-often does the trick! :) good luck!
hey, I say ignore all that boyfriend business. Alot of the girls at my school have gotten in serious trouble for having boyfriends. Most of the "popular" girls at my school are my friends - not because I have a boyfriend, but because I be myself. And I'm not popular at my school! 6th grade's a mess!
abby,
your mom might feel uncomfortable telling you about this stuff, or maybe she just doesnt have time. either way, you do need to know it....so even tho this is one of the most embarrassing things in the world, i suggest you talk to her. first. but i admit, even i would not do this. im not really good at this stuff,...but hey, if you really do talk to her, i give you two thumbs up!!
DONT WORRY ABOUT THEM HAVE FUN WITH YOUR FRIENDS!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Hi Lola,
life is not about being popular.
just be yourself. never try to be
something your not.
Hi lola, be crazy and stand out but you dont have to if you dont want to:)
Lola, just be yourself. If people don't like you because of who you are, that's their problem. Be who you wanna be and ignore them:)
Eva, 12
Look being popular is stupid no offense to popular ppl but my mom had a highschool reunion and half the popular kids didnt show up and the ones who did were fat and had really cruddy jobs so be yourself and study up and try to get higher than what you dreamed beacuse my mom was first the biggest geek in school to a fashion designer that is building her way up so be you and be free
Hi Lola, i think its just really important to be who you are. Dont pretend to be someone you are not, other people dont like fake people. Dont worry about everyone else having boyfriends, if your not ready for a boyfriend dont worry. Dont worry about being popular, people should like you for who you are and not who you are pretending to be.
hi lola
i have the exact same problem
but i try to except that he hasent come along yet
youl find him soon
from megan
p.s btw thers no such thing as being popular everyone is equal
from megan
oh don't we all wish that! Here's a tip...
just be yourself!!! thats the best way! If people like you for you, then that's great! and if certain people don't, it's their loss! ;)
Just stick by your true friends, and hopefully they will stick by you!
Lola,and all of you other girls out there, being "popular" really isn't that important. From personal experience,they may look like they're always having fun, but they're really just struggling to look like it. Popularity is like an unstable bridge that could break any moment,so don't do the stupid thing and try to get on it.
hay lola being popular dosnt mean getting all the guys and droling over YORSELF last year i was nice to people and this year i tried to be popular and it dindt work out so i asked my frind and she said u were popular last year but now your not so theres a story for ya the point is be kind nice and yorself not the popular girl
good luck
hi guys,
i m Rain u know I m always nice to my friends but while i m nice they r kinda blaiming me for what they do and i m new in my school it won't work if i say i did nothing,because they don't believe me cause i m new
what should i do?
everyone is popular if you are surronded by people who love you
HI Lola! I'm pretty popular,but there is nothing so great about it. I used to have a boy friend that was my crush. It was so much fun with him. But to be popular be funny and kind. I am and I'm popular. If you need anymore advice I'm mostly on this website. Your Welcome!!!!
I think you should be who you are then to me you are considered popular
hi Lola!
I don't think you should try to be popular because popular people always go dum over their popularity and then when they grow up they have really crapp.y jobs and not very much money for anything and then instead of cooking healthy meals (which is very affordable) they go to the fast food places all the time, then they get fat and overweight and none of the clothes that they have make them loook good so they have to go around looking like dorks.
so I don't mind that im not the most popular person i have great friends and a great education so later in life it will be great!
xox Cynthia F
Every class has a popular crew, but that dosen't mean you like them does it? There is no formula for being popular just try and fit in with people like you and form a little group and then you will be happy and popular with YOUR friends...you don't have be popular in everyone's eyes. XX
Well is it the fact you want to be? Or your pressured to be a popular person?If you want to, it's cool. Just do what is right. Don't get popular by pushing people around though!!
popular........ pop......ular..... wow that one single word can cause an earthquake of hatred! being popular should never be one of your MAIN priorities. Your should always have a nice group of friends that you know will stay by you through thick and thin though..... if you REALLY want to be popular, show people how nice and funny you are and eventually people will start relizing what a great friend you are! good luck! <3
There's this girl in my class who's really popular too but she always talks about people and has no real friends. Don't cave in to popularity it's no. Worth it
dear lola
it d,oesnt matter if your popular just be yourself or ask to be popular
if their your true friends they'll invite you.
just be urself and if your friends dont accept you for who you are then tell them i dont care what you say you will eventuly get one and then they will probaly accept you for who you are and being popular means your probaly going to be mean so just be youself and dont listen to them if theysay something mean there just beig bullies because there jelous.hope this helped
katelyn
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